Hi, I'll try to keep this as brief as possible. Our ds will be 3 this September. We believe he is ready for toilet training. He goes to nursery for 15 hours a week, we have spoken to them and they will be starting it there as soon as we say to.
I'll be honest, every aspect of parenting I got from my mum. I did things the way she did them because that was what I knew. There's such a large age gap between my siblings and I that I was an adult so was very involved with them. However I'd moved out by the time she had to toilet train, so this is the only aspect I haven't seen first hand. Hence I'm so worried about it.
Our plan is to skip the potty and go straight to the toilet. We have a seat with a built in baby seat, and we will get a step. However our only toilet is upstairs, so would that be doable?
I know they recommend to put them in pants so they can feel it more. But would I put a pull up over his pants, especially when going out, to nursery for example? (Otherwise I'll be doing a ton of washing all the time).
The biggest thing is how often should I be taking him to the toilet? As I said it's upstairs so need to allow for that. He has speech delay so won't always say, but he will pull down his pull up when he has done a wee, and will point down there when he needs to go or is going. And will tell us when he is dirty. The hard bit will be getting him to say or show us before he needs to go.
And how long should I let him sit on the toilet at a time?
The Heath visitor said when changing his pull-ups, i should take him to the toilet and show him, if it's it's wet I should tell him that wee goes in the toilet, and if it's dirty I should put the poo down the toilet, so he sees that's where it goes. Is that a good or bad idea?
I hear reward charts are highly recommended so will get him one of those.
Literally anything helpful will be appreciated? I'm dreading it tbh. This is the only aspect of parenting I'm not confident on.