DD was told off by dh and now seems worried to go

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Our DD recently turned two, and potty training was going really well at home. We have always been pretty relaxed about it, and don't make a big deal if she has an accident. But a week or so ago when doing a poo on the toilet, DD got a bit worried and jumped off, and poo went everywhere! Dh got angry with her and really told her off (which he knew was wrong and apologised for afterwards), but it ended up making DD scared of going to the toilet or sitting on her potty.

This past two days DD has begun sitting on the potty and toilet again, and is happy to do so. However she won't actually do anything, and instead will hold in her wee for hours. She's also had constipation a few times recently, as since the 'incident' she's been worried about doing a poo (even in her nappy).

I'm just unsure of what to do. Mil thinks we should stop training, but it would feel like such a shame when she was doing so well and showing all of the signs. I have found after a few hours when I know that DD really has to go, I end up putting her nappy on so she can wee as I don't want her getting poorly. At the same time, I know this is sending mixed messages and encouraging her to hold her wee in until her nappy is back on.

What would you advise? Thank you.

put her back in nappies, no fuss.
Then tell DH that toilet training will be your department, he can go walk the dog or something.
Leave it a few weeks before you start again.

Thank you, I know it may be for the best I'm just so disappointed as everything was going really well. It was really unlike dh to get angry at her like that, I'm just reminding myself we all make mistakes.

Put her back in nappies for a little bit, just until she feels more comfortable about it again. I wouldn't push it just now as it will only make her more anxious. Make sure she is given loads of praise if she does ask to go on the potty.

MIL is right, its ok you've done the hard work she knows what to do she just needs to feel relaxed again. It won't take long just pop her back in nappies and give her some time.

Just how angry did he get?

It’s all very well suggesting he doesn’t handle it and goes for a walk but what about the next thing he can’t handle?

Thanks everyone - I'm feeling a bit more happy about that idea now, as I've been worried that if we did that we would be back to square one when we tried again.

He just really shouted at her, when we generally try not to raise our voices to her, and have always stayed calm about accidents previously.

He was then shouting me upstairs for some help, but I was in the kitchen and couldn't hear him, and he thinks DD thought he kept shouting at her as she was so upset.

Poor little mite! Give her a break for a bit. She'll be even more ready in a couple of weeks and will probably pick it right up again. Let her recover confidence for a bit.

I accidentally shouted at my DD, so have some sympathy. She did a poo next to the potty and I automatically shouted to stop her when she went to pick it up to put it in the potty.... these things slip out with the best will in the world!