DD is 3.3 and has been at nursery since easter. We've given her opportunities to wear pants and use the toilet or potty for a long time, but she's never shown any interest, and the lazy approach to potty training worked perfectly with her older sister, so I've always ended up putting her back in nappies/pull-ups.
Last week, her nursery teacher said she told them she'd like to wear pants, so I thought great, we'll go for it. They seem to think she's doing brilliantly, but she's only there for 3-hour sessions, and while she'll go and sit on the toilet when they suggest it to her, I don't think she's actually weeing. Every day she wees in her pants or on the grass in the garden (they've been in and out of the paddling pool so lots of naked time at home). So far, at home she has managed zero wees or poos in the potty, and I'm finding it so stressful. Tonight between teatime and bedtime she did 3 wees on the floor/carpet. She seems to know that it's coming, particularly when it's a poo, but often asks for a nappy. She also seems to have some control, but still no wees on the potty.
My instinct is that she's not ready, because I don't think it should be this hard. And I know it's not good for her when I'm losing it because she's weed on the carpet again. But then, she's 3, and developmentally perfectly on track, so why can't she do it yet? I feel pressured by nursery to keep her in pants, but the constant accidents are really getting me down.
Any advice? I really don't know what the best approach is here.