Do you ever put them back in a nappy?

[SparkwoodAnd21]

We’ve been nappy free for about ten days and I think we’ve mastered wees. But he WILL NOT sit on a potty or a toilet (with child seat) no matter what I do. He just poos on the floor without any warning. It’s ok if we’re in the house but we have to leave some time and I really don’t want him pooing on the floor in a cafe or museum or anything. Will it fuck everything up totally if I put him in a nappy for a few hours tomorrow to go to something we really want to go to?

My son has conquered wees, but not even close with poop. He still tells me and goes to wee on the toilet even if he's in a pull up.
I had to give in an put him in pull ups as cleaning up a child in pants with squashed poo all up their back when out and about is both disgusting and difficult.

I think I’m going to have to do it. Don’t know what to do about nursery either.

Is he weeing standing up or is he willing to sit for wees and not poops? It's unclear from your post.

What do you say to him when he does the poo on the floor?

For nursery I'd let him go without a nappy- they do potty training all the time so I'd make the most of the time he has with them. Let someone else clean up

Yes let someone else raise your child and put in the hard work

When he does a poo on the floor I calmly clean it up and suggest that next time he tries to do it on the potty or toilet.

Bit unnecessary Timeis...

Well when you put your kids in nursery you're effectively paying them to look after them while youre not there and to me that includes potty training!!!

My comment is to Timeis by the way

Fuzzy I agree ! My nursery is a home away from home ! They do exactly what we do with all stuff like this

He seems close to being potty trained - nursery might encourage him to go all the way.

I had no trouble with my DC but I was full time childcare for DGC and when he was 2.5 yrs we had to get him toilet trained so he could go to a particular (lovely) nursery.
He refused to sit on the potty (or toilet) so I asked everybody I knew for tips. Tried them all with no success. Then someone said to try just holding him down on the potty. This sounded awful but we were desperate. He showed signs of needing a wee so I put him on the potty and held him there despite his protestations of “I don’t need a wee” and suddenly he weed. In the potty. He looked so surprised, I gave him lots of praise and from then on he was fine.
Worth a try?

Fuzzyduck21
No what you basically told OP was, let the nursery workers do the potty training so you don't have to bother.
Yes the nursery will carry on whatever you are doing at home obviously, bit for you to say "Let someone else clean up", is a bit off.

My DD was doing perfectly with the wees, but just could not master using a potty or toilet for poos.

The staff at nursery had explained that once the nappies/pull ups come off, that they should never go back on. We were going out for a meal one weekend however, and had to travel via public transport far away for a wedding on the following weekend. I just did not see it as viable, or appropriate for her to go without nappies or pull ups. This didn’t confuse her, but we decided to keep her in pull ups any time we went out, at bed time, and in the evenings, as it was too much hard work cleaning up after her (sometimes 4 times per day!). I have a newborn and I study too, and DH works until late, and at the weekend - it was just too much.

Unfortunately this has massively set her back. At first, she still removed the pull ups and weed in the potty, but now she just wees in the pull ups. We decided to remove the pull ups again, and we’ve had numerous incidents ever since (wees and poos).

I would only advise you to put the pull ups on again if it’s completely inconvenient otherwise, and then to return to them ASAP.

Oh and my comment about letting
Someone else do the work was to Fuzzyduck21, not the OP.

Yes I'm affraid OP it is very confusing for children to go from one to the other. I have potty trained a lot of children as I am a childminder. I always carry on what parents are doing at home and always advise them to keep the pants on. Yes it is inconvenient if they have an accident but it really is the fastest way to being fully potty trained.
A friend asked me for tips not long ago, I gave her some but she didn't really take them on board and put a pull up on to leave the house,( pretty much all the time) and just had pants on at home. It took her daughter nearly 8 months to be fully potty trained. It was just too confusing.

I put one on him today and it came off as soon as we got home. We are not doing anything tomorrow so he’ll be nappy free all day. I’ll send him in to nursery nappy free this week and talk to them about what they think is best. Does that sound reasonable? I don’t want to confuse him but I don’t want him making a mess of nursery either! They’ll have far more experience in this than me.

Absolutely, there's not much more you can do than that.
Make sure to never say the famous phrase " it's ok, it's just an accident" people can't help it 😂. That little phrase just slips out bit it's also very confusing for children.

What do you say when it happens then? I’m not sure if we’ve said ‘accident’ or not.

Personally I'd be a little stern and say 'No, we don't poo on the floor, on the potty or toilet only' and just keep reinforcing that. Don't give him any eye contact when he's done it. Just show mild displeasure then move on.
Don't put nappies on again (except night times if needed).
He will get it eventually if you are clear, consistent and firm.