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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Do I potty train 2.3yo ds when dc2 is due in 4 weeks?

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WhyTheHeckMe · 19/03/2018 23:37

I'm feeling the pressure from everyone. Ds was 2 at the start of January and still wears nappies. He never tells me that he needs a wee but always says he needs a poo - in fact if we're out he begs me to take him home as he hates pooing in public which is slightly concerning. The second he's pooed he lies down and asks for me to change him. He doesn't wee a lot as he's never ever been a big drinker.
Anyway my mum and 2 sisters all keep telling me that if I'm not careful I'm going to miss this golden window of opportunity to train him.
I'm due dc2 in 4 weeks and am really worried that he'll regress. I'd planned on leaving it till I'm on mat leave, the weathers warmer and he's used to having a sibling.
What would you do?! Please help. Thanks

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StylishDuck · 19/03/2018 23:53

No I wouldn't. 4 weeks is far too close to not be affected. To put it into context, we started potty training DD at 2.6, 6 months before DS was due yet she still regressed after he was born. In fact she's now 3.2 and still isn't there. I would leave it a few months at least.

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WhyTheHeckMe · 20/03/2018 06:38

That's what I thought too. Is there such thing as "missing the window"?

I hope your dd cracks it soon stylishduck

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Soubriquet · 20/03/2018 06:43

No way!

My 3 year old Ds is still in nappies. I'm waiting for the summer holidays where he can run about bare bum before I start training.

Dd was in nappies until she 3.4 and was dry in 3 days using this method.

Ignore pressures from other people. My sister likes to brag her dd was potty trained at 18 months. In reality, she wore knickers, but needed changing multiple times a day because she had accidents

newcupcake · 20/03/2018 07:19

A big fat no from me ! Too close to a big change it'll be a Nightmare for you . I did all mine just free this third birthdays and was over and done with quickly , tried them all before they were 2.5 and it was a disaster. He doesn't sound ready and the work involved isn't worth it this late into your pregnancy.

NSEA · 20/03/2018 07:20

Nope. Definitely wait. Most first born children aren’t ready until at least 3 years old anyway

PlugUgly1980 · 20/03/2018 07:23

No...and no such thing as golden window of opportunity. I waited til baby had arrived, and toilet trained 6 months later just before her 3rd birthday. She was dry straight away, no accidents and went straight to using toilet rather then potty. I saw my SIL get so stressed with potty training and multiple changes of clothes that I was just going to wait. Worked a treat.

ForgivenessIsDivine · 20/03/2018 07:25

Joinourclub · 20/03/2018 07:26

I'd start by puttting him on the potty to poo, and if he does a wee too then great. You don't have to take him out of nappies yet if you don't think he's ready.

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NeffSaid · 12/04/2018 20:02

I would too. DD sort of trained herself over a period of months but she actually completely nailed it the week her baby brother was born.
There are always regressions when a new sibling arrives; they are not always toileting related.

WhatILoved · 25/04/2018 01:36

I trained my 2 year old just after his brother was born. It was something to entertain him with whilst we were inside for a week following the birth

SnowGoArea · 25/04/2018 01:53

I trained two of mine at about 2.5 when each was happily settled with their new sibling (at least 8 weeks), but well before the baby could crawl (crawling baby + potty training accidents = yuck). It worked well for me.

WineIsMyMainVice · 05/05/2018 21:38

No way! You’re going to have too much on your hands when the new baby comes. Also he’s still quite young. The arrival of the baby may also be an unsettling time for him, so leave him to get used to that.
My DD decid3d about 4months after her DB arrived that she wanted to ditch the nappies, and I sometimes wonder whether that was her way of getting back some attention! But it was really easy as it was her decision.
Good luck

SauvB123 · 16/05/2018 09:40

No, I tried at a similar age (as dc was showing interest) and there was some limited success, but then massive regression when new baby arrived (dc wanted to be treated like a baby too and have nappy changes, no interest in potty for months)!

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore · 16/05/2018 09:43

I did but wouldn't if I had my time again. There is something particularly awful about sitting on the bathroom floor next to a toddler on a potty just after a c-section, while breastfeeding.

ToThaMax · 17/05/2018 11:14

My ds was also 2 at start of Jan and my dd arrived a month later. I really wanted to start before she was born but the pregnancy took a lot out of me. I’m starting now and even tho it’s hard with him and her it seems to be the right time. He’s dry for longer and understands when he goes. Now just need to get him to stay on the potty and loo 😏

SheenaK · 18/05/2018 14:17

I'm in the same position, expecting and hoping to potty train before baby arrives. However I think 4 weeks just won't be enough, because once baby arrives it could throw your son off completely, as it's such a big change for them.

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