Toddler escaping!

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DS is 2yrs 9months and refuses the potty when he actually needs to go.

He literally runs off when I notice he's about to poo.
Today I was in the room with him and I noticed him stop his playing and squat a little and I said "come on DS lets go on the potty" and he said "no poo poo" and proceeded to power walk out of the room waving behind him going "byeeee" .
I couldn't follow him as I was BFing DS2.

In all his life I've managed to get him to have 1 wee on a potty. We have a normal one and the toilet seat one and he's not really fussed about it. He will sit on it for a bit and then jump off and run around.
My HV has told me I should wait until he tells me himself he needs the potty but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do to encourage him?
His nappies have recently turned into a bio hazard and I'd rather have him out of them sooner than later TBH

Honestly? It sounds like he's not ready. I would forget about it for another couple of months then try again. We tried potty training DD when she was about 2.6 and got to the stage where she was dry at home and nearly dry at nursery. Then all of a sudden she just went backwards for some reason and refused the potty or the toilet. We just put her back in nappies and ignored it for a while. She's 3 now and we're planning to start again soon. (DC2 was born in January so we made an allowance for that before we started again). Don't stress about it because he'll sense that and get stressed himself. He's still young.

I think if you want to train him then you need to be a bit more proactive about it rather than letting him lead. Not easy, especially with a baby! I did it when DS was 6 weeks old and although it wasn't fun, it really wasn't half as bad as I expected.

You need to dedicate at least a weekend to it when you've got somebody else there and then then when you've broken the back of it, it won't be an easy first week but it will be better than trying to start it when it's only you home.

I'd recommend reading Oh Crap to give you a plan. It's a really quick read so won't take too long and at least it gives you a rough structure to follow. She does recommend training between 20-30 months so now would be a good time.