Should I go back to nappies after 2 months?

[SJHMummy]

I am considering putting my 2.5 yr old back into nappies following 2 months of successful potty training for wees and very unsuccessful for poos. My son holds his poo in, I think is constipated, and when he finally does go it is in his pants, never ever in the loo or potty! And now he’s setting himself again too.
I think he is just too young and perhaps we should just quit and try again when he’s old enough to ‘get it’.
I have no issue with doing this but want to know if anyone else has had this and what he did. I’m at the end of my teather cleaning up after countless accidents (4 poos all in pants within 30 mins this afternoon - sorry for tmi )

I’d be more worried about the fact that he’s doing four poos in 30 minutes?! Is it because he’s holding loads in and doing it in “bits?!”

My DD also found poos tricky and I’m not confident to say that we’re fully there with it yet as she’s only been pooing reliably in toilet for a few days.

Have you tried taking him to toilet when you go? Poo goes to Pooland?!

I’d be tempted to not put him back in nappies as he’s doing well with the wees tbh, but understand the frustration of having to clean up loads of accidents.

Bless both of you it must be upsetting and frustrating, my experience is that boys tend to be closer to 3 than 2 so I would definitely consider going back to nappies but use the pants ones and still get him to use the potty for wees. I’m sure that one day he will just start using the potty for poos also but for now take the stress out of both your lives.

I would go back to nappies. Life is too short to be cleaning shitty paired of pants. He will get there when he gets there. We tried early with our DS and it was an epic task. We waited with dD until she was over 3 and she has maybe wet her knickers 4 times and has been dry at night since the first day.

If it is stressful to you both, don't do it!

I agree with the above, use pullups and continue encouraging wees as.much as.possible, but let him poo in the nappy, having a nappy to poo is very very common even into reception age, the important thing right now is him going regularly. Check out the Eric website on this, once you have him using the nappy again without issue for a month or two you can then add in the extra step of going into the toilet to change, then sitting on the toilet with the nappy on to poo, then cut a hole in the nappy so he poos into the toilet, then make the whle bigger and so on.

Thanks all for your advice, I’m conflicted as to whether to stick with it or go back to nappies. Might see how the next few days go and then asses, just seems such a step back after 2-3 months! Wish we’d never started tbh!

I was about to post the same. I started potty training my now 28 month old 4 weeks ago. She has had very few accidents - potty training had been easier than I expected or so I thought but the past 4 days she's been constantly soiling herself despite standing right next to the potty. I've just put a pull up on her now as I have 1 dress, 2 tights, 2 leggings, 4 pairs of knickers, pair of socks and a sofa cushion to wash now and just fed up tbh

I could have written your post a couple of months ago. DS got wees straight away but just couldn't get poos after a few days I didn't know what to do and like you considered going back to nappies.

In the end we offered a nappy for a poo and got to him being completely dry and asking for a nappy for a poo. Gradually we moved to him pooing in a nappy in the bathroom to make the association and with a bit of a push (and 4 months after he was dry) he now happily poos in the toilet. It helped distress the situation as he could have a nappy but we felt we were building in the right direction as he was recognising the need to go and waiting for the nappy.

We also did lots of poo goes to poo land and books with poos in. We both talked about needing a poo and going to the toilet to try and make it more normal.

It wasn't easy and we did have some tears when we pushed him to use the toilet but very quickly he was happy to use the toilet. I think there was still a bit of fear about what was going to happen and he just needed to get through that.

I know our approach won't be for everyone and if your little one doesn't recognise the need to go then it might not work yet and going back to nappies or pull ups might be the best idea.

Damn autocorrect de stress not distress! Sorry really should triple check my posts.

I'm in a very similar situation and have just returned my son to nappies, he doesn't like it but it's a lot less stressful.