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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Toilet training take 3!

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kitkat321 · 16/09/2017 00:04

I've booked some time off work later this month to make a 3rd attempt at potty training my almost 3 year old dd.

We tried in May and she wasn't ready - she could and would pee and poo on the toilet and understood the concept but she didn't have the awareness of when she needed to go so when left without a nappy would wet herself and sounded genuinely surprised shen she started to pee. Persevered for a couple of days but she was getting a bit grumpy being put on the toilet constantly so we left it.

About a month later she developed chicken pox and had a lot of spots in her nappy area and we were advised to give her as much time as possible without her nappy so we just kept an eye on things and she still seemed surprised when she started to pee - so no pressure we just left it.

We're now a few months down the line. She's started to sometimes say when she is /has just done a pee. She's also getting a bit more upset when dirtying in her nappy (hides away, asks you not to look at her) and is becoming prone to taking her nappy off once she's wet it - (or even worse has dirtied it) but she has now completely gone off sitting on the toilet.

She used to always have a sit on it and would usually do the toilet but now whenever I ask her if she wants to sit on the bit toilet she just says no thanks. If I do sit her on it she's straight off and says she doesn't need.

She drinks a lot so she can be quite wet which is an added challenge - she soaked though a pair of pull up pants in less than an hour this week - partly because she'd just been swimming and managed to drink half the pool!

Any tips for how to approach it this time - I had been trying to use sweeties as a reward when she did it but that didn't work - in fact it made it worse as she was constantly asking to go to the toilet, not doing anything then asking for a sweetie.

I think she's ready or not far off and I'd like to have made some progress before she moves up into the next room in the nursery as most if not all the kids in there are toilet trained now and I'm worried she'll become more aware/embarrassed about being in a nappy.

Any suggestions welcome!

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user1495997773 · 20/09/2017 11:00

Will she sit on the potty if she doesn't like the toilet? If she doesn't like either, maybe you could make them seem more appealing by letting her choose a couple of books/small toys that are just for potty/toilet time so she'll sit there because she wants access to them? I must admit, with mine, I didn't reward them with sweets for just sitting, only when they produced something (a smartie each time).
It sounds like she's much more aware now than in May, so that should help. IMO, when you've got your time off work, I'd just go for it, keep her bottom half bare or just in pants and keep a potty close to hand, and just put her in a nappy at sleep times. If after a couple of days she seems to have made no progress with her awareness etc, I'd pause it for a few more weeks, and then try again.
Good Luck! X

singlemumwith2daughters · 20/09/2017 13:31

If she's getting upset please stop, and don't force her.
And you can guarantee if you took time off work, she would toilet train! They have minds of their own.! I have a mate who recently took off a month in the summer, and her 3 year old refused to toilet train. When she went back to work, she started to then take an interest.
best to be lead by your child, and don't be embarrassed!
I tried the potty training academy pack, which is £21.99 and such good value for money - kid love the animated characters and the book. It really really helped to stay to a routine xx

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