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Should I give up?

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Welikethemoon · 13/08/2017 17:08

We have been preparing my dd (2 and 3months) for months, had a potty in the living room, got her to sit on it occasionally with nothing, got a seat for the loo which she would sit on, but nothing. We bought some knickers which she was very excited about and kept asking to wear them. She goes to nursery 3 days per week and a lot of kids in her room are potty training and she is very interested in it all, but hadn't actually managed to do anything on the potty until this week...
Wednesday she went to hospital for day surgery to have grommets, not her first time, everything went smoothly she recovered within a couple of hours, all fine.
Next day I'm keeping her in the house anyway to make sure she is completely over the general anesthetic. On a whim I decided to just take her nappy off and leave it off in the morning, about 10am just to see what happens. We spend the morning mainly watching cebeebies, there was not even a dribble. Nap time I put a nappy on, she wakes up with a very wet nappy, I expected this. In the afternoon we played with the potty, putting her toys on it and pretend they have weed (put some water in the potty when she wasn't looking) I heap the praise on the toy, she is delighted and helps me flush the pretend wee. Then a few minutes later she suddenly stops what she's doing, spontaneously sits on the potty and wees! We are extatic, heap the praise, she helps to flush, she loves it. A couple of hours later she does exactly the same. (except this time she was still wearing big girl knickers and wees through them, but no big deal, just changed them. No accident all day, nappy to bed as normal.
Morning day 2 she does a wee on the potty first thing, all fine then I catch her doing poo face and sit her on the potty, she poos on the potty! Amazing!
Then doesn't wee for hours, has a small accident later in the morning, wees in her nap time nappy, large accident in tbe late afternoon. No more wees on the potty despite me asking every 15 minutes or so if she wants to do it. She is now refusing to sit on the potty...
Today, day 3, she woke up in the morning with an over flowing nappy. Didn't wee at all from 6am till 4pm! Even nap time nappy was dry Then had a massive accident on the living room floor around 4pm She was a bit surprised but not upset. She is still refusing to sit on the potty, we have tried pretending with the toys again. I have tried bribing her with stickers, tried making it a game. Tried very hard to not make a bug deal of the accidents, But she doesn't seem interested any more.
If you have kept reading this far, my question is, was it a fluke? do I keep going or give up and try again in a few weeks /months? She is due to go to nursery tomorrow, we are due to go and stay with the inlaws for a week from next weekend. They have a new carpet... Am I going to confuse her even more if we stop? Wish I hadn't started! 🙁

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Rosetintedhouse · 14/08/2017 11:23

Well you made a good start. They always find it exciting in the beginning and then get bored of it. This happened to my second born. He was going potty everyday from April when we started potty training him. It was only pants in the day time and no accidents. We got to the point where we didn't need to remind him to go anymore, he just went when he felt like it. He mastered the wee and eventually the poos but it took a couple of weeks. Anyway his little brother was born on 16th June and about a week later, he started wetting himself everytime. He stopped going potty completely. And we realise its because he wasn't getting the attention of being the youngest anymore. Anyway, so we were back at square one again and pull ups day and night. I decided to give it a rest and not make it a big issue. Anyway it took a while but he's now asking to go potty whenever it's time for a nappy change and he actually does something when he goes.
I think you have to just keep the potty there and let her go when she's ready. she knows what to do as you've explained. She's just being rebellious right now. When you stop fussing, she'll go. And also, soon she'll start feeling left out if all her nursery mates are going potty and she isn't. it will happen. We're not there yet but I think we're heading in the right direction.

Huge reply for a huge post, lol. Hope this helps :)

Welikethemoon · 14/08/2017 23:04

Thank you for your reply! It was a truly massive post wasn't it 😂. She went to nursery today in her knickers. Had several accidents but also some successful wees on the potty. Nursery were very good about it thankfully. Even when she did such a massive poo in her knickers that they had to throw them away! I feel a bit better about it now, I realise it is only day 4 and we have a long way to go. Thanks for your reassurance, I hope you are having more success. X

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