3 year old still nappies

[undertheweatherr]

My 3 year old (nearly 4) is still in nappies and I'm having no luck getting him out of them. We have tried reward charts, toilet style potty, seat on the proper toilet, rewards if manages to use the potty but he just isn't interested. He's managed to wee on the potty a handful of times over the last year and the rest of the time I just get "I'll do it tomorrow" from him! He's a smart boy, speech is excellent.

Any suggestions for trying anything else please?

I would tell him there are no more nappies and put him in pants and then not put a nappy on him again!

Will he be 4 this month? So starting school this year?

Just take them off him and perservere.

Stop negotiating with him. He sounds like a bright boy so it's time to just take the nappies away and stick with it. Potty training is hard so I do sympathise!

My DD was EXACTLY like this. And a month off 4 when she decided that she was using the toilet. Had been getting really stressed as was being pushed from nursery and despite bribery / taking nappies off / rewards / reasoning nothing was working and she was due to start school in September. Then honestly one day she just did it with no input from me. They will do it when they're ready IME.

Ds knows he has to at least try for a wee before fav TV programme is put on. .
At nearly 4 years old behaviour modification is acceptable. . (black mail)

Take him to choose some pants and then take the nappies away and go for it. At very nearly 4 (and assuming no SN) he should be developmentally ready so it's a case of persevering really.

No advice but in the same boat.

DS is 3 and a half and we've tried everything. Put him in pants and he'll hold it until he's hysterical. He's resisted rewards, bribery and reasoning. At this rate his 20mo brother will be trained before he is.

Sympathy and placemarking for wisdom.

He's 4 next month, doesn't start school until next year.

We've taken him to pick his own pants which he was excited about but once home doesn't want to wear them.

I will try just taking the nappies away then and see what happens.

Just be brisk and tell him cheerfully that he's wearing pants from now on. Take him to the loo or potty regularly and give him lots of praise. Hopefully he'll get it quickly.

I'm a firm believer in waiting until the child is ready, and if he's not starting school this year there's no real urgency yet.

Out of interest, could anything be making him anxious about toilet training? I 4YO DS sometimes says "I'll do it tomorrow" and it's almost always over something he's worried about.

MY 4YO, not I.

Just throw nappies away and tell,him as he's now a big boy he needs to use the lavatory. Buy a step and get your husband to teach him to wee standing up.