Help and reassurance needed 😰

[Honeybeez1986]

Hello all, my ds is 2 years and 8 months. We are on day three of potty training, I suppose I was nieve he would get it as quickly as his older brother who was wee and poo in the toilet within 5 days.
He knows that wee goes in the potty as he will tell me. When he is made to sit on the potty for a while he will do a wee in it, but when he's just wondering around or playing and i ask him if he needs a wee, he will say no, and one min later he will come and say wet mama - he has wet his pants.

I'm wondering does he understand? Is he just being lazy? I have a baby aswel so I'm so tired running to and from each. I
Am wondering have i started to early? Friends have said to carry on now I have started but I just feel so disheartened that he's not voluntarily doing a wee in the potty or even telling me yes I need to go when I ask him??

Don't ask him, phrase it as a statement: 'Come on DS, it's time to wee.' Less opportunity for refusal!

Give it a day or 2 more and then reassess.

Thankyou for your reply, I think your right I will need to.. dh keeps saying if he's not ready then stop.. I just feel all these 4 days that I've given my soal will go to waste 😰

Did he show signs of readiness or have you decided it's time? He might not be ready.

For goodness sake stop and give yourself and your DS a break. Its so much easier to change a nappy than keep clearing up messes. Wait until he decides he's ready, don't do it because you think you should or someone else is pressuring you. DH is absolutely right!

My DS removed his nappy on his 3rd birthday, announced that he wouldn't be wearing them any more, and that was that, no accidents, easiest potty training ever.

I agree with couchpotato, he doesn't sound ready so stop and try again in a couple of months

Or stop and wait until he gives you clear signs that he's ready.

I think secretly it is falling to the social pressure that his two other cousins are potty trained. My older ds never showed signs but took to it well so I suppose that shows he was ready! Online order it is for a pack of nappies! Secretly relieved

Thankyou 😀

My DS is 3 and half and only just potty trained not for want of me trying earlier, he just didn't get it. I felt the same like the effort we (well me lol !!) Had gone to waste. But now we are doing very Well, I would say if he doesn't improve in next couple of days leave for a few months and try again. And don't worry about it.

Presumably you didn't feel the same societal pressure about other milestones: crawling, walking, talking? This is in the same category as those.