My not-so little one will be 4 in July and starting reception in September. She is STILL not toilet trained.
Some days she'll go all day being dry, other days she will have 4+ accidents. But she won't tell us that she has one, she'll just wait until we notice and then either laugh or be embarrassed.. usually she will go all shy and cheekily say no.
She's made my rug smell in the corner near the tv where she sits, rarely sits on the sofa. That would've been easier because it's leather!
I don't know what to do! My son was dry by the time he was 3. She's being doing this since September and I feel like we're not getting anywhere!! She does have a poo on the toilet though, figured that out almost straight away.
I'm worried that it stems from the week in September where she started nursery. They said to put her in knickers and they would help train her there - every day (3 hours) my mum would pick her up and she'd be wet. It got to Day 5 and she had been wet every day and was a little sore. They never changed her. But on this particular day, she had a poo in her knickers. They didn't notice apparently and she was so sore she was bleeding and she stunk so bad. I don't know how they didn't notice!!! I took her home and gave her three baths before the smell went. I never sent her back, I phoned and told them why and the nursery lady had the cheek to say "if they don't tell us, how are we supposed to know, nothing we can do about that".
But.. a couple of weeks later I got a call from the preschool my son went to for 2 years. My son was 2 1/2 when he started and she was coming with us every day that I took him. She knows the school well and we are friends with a little boy who goes there. As in we all go out together.
So I sent her there for 2 mornings a week. I know the women well and they are all so nice. They will give her a cuddle when I leave and they let me know how she's got on, they change her when she has an accident. Most of all, I trust them and I'm happy to leave her there. Some days she is dry and some she's not.
If she cries too much then she has an accident.
I'm worried about her starting reception in September and not using the toilet, and being really upset. She has huge separation anxiety with me. She still sleeps in our bed and only wants me to put her to bed. Husband/Daddy can do it but it takes longer and she asks for me. She loves him and cuddles him at night so I don't see why she's so needy with me. Husband tells me that I mollycoddle her. And the 2 1/2 years of breastfeeding didn't help. But she's my baby girl and I can't stand seeing her upset so I will go to her straightaway.