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Help please, 6 year old not dry at night

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Northernlassie1974 · 17/04/2017 13:22

Hi,
My 6 year old daughter has never been dry at night.
Now, I'm well aware that a hormone needs to kick in and haven't been overly worried as I was advised nothing could be done until she's 7 if she's still wetting. I don't want to make an issue of it with her.
In truth, she's not all that bothered about it. We've tried a few times, tried it in different ways, no drinks after 5, lifting to go to the toilet when asleep, making sure she we'd before bed, doing nothing differently etc etc.
She has always been a brilliant sleeper and just is in such a deep sleep she doesn't wake.
However, I'm becoming increasingly unsure that she isn't waking to go. If her pull up is on, she doesn't go to the toilet she just wees in it. We don't put it on her until she's getting into bed (otherwise she'd just wee in it despite being downstairs etc)
I've been having to change her bedding as there are yellow patches many mornings and her nappy is sodden. It's the holidays and she's been awake later, coming downstairs, sometime watching a bit of TV like britains got talent as a treat etc. I'm convinced that she is not trying to be dry at night and is just enjoying the 'convenience' of wearing the pull up.
Anyway, I'm contemplating just taking it off her and persevering (for at least a fortnight) until she goes to the toilet in the night time.
However, it goes against everything I was thinking, I.e she just isn't ready and the hormone can't have kicked in, just wait until she wants to etc etc
I'm more than happy to just continue as we are, but don't want to be inactive on the subject either.
Anyway, I'm waffling, but any advice from anyone in a similar situation/has been etc.
Last thing I want to do is upset her or disrupt her sleeping, however, im also worried that she is able to and just doesn't want to!
I spoke to her about if earlier and showed her her sheets and she said 'in the night it's dark and I don't want to go' I've said we'll turn landing, hall and bathroom light on. She then said 'I don't want to have to flush it in the night because it's scary,' so we've said she doesn't need to flush it, just wipe and back to bed. She seems happy with this, but don't know if I should just leave it as not sure she'll even be able to if she tries and will result in her being upset!

Argh, help! Anyone, any advice???

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ShatterResistant · 22/04/2017 08:40

I came on to say do exactly what you're doing! My 4yo was the same- deep sleeper, pretty sure she weed in her nappy even while awake because it's convenient. In the end I built her up emotionally, put double layers of sheets on her bed (sheet, disposable waterproof mat, 2nd sheet, 2nd disposable mat, so I could just rip one layer off in the night) and took the nappy away! We wake her as we're going to bed for a wee, and I help her walk to the bathroom so I know she's awake. The first couple of nights she fought it, but now she's getting out of bed herself as soon as she hears my voice. And last night, although she didn't get to the loo by herself, she woke up and started walking there around 10.30pm. I think I could probably have done it months ago, but like your DD, she was NEVER dry in the morning....

Great you're having some success. Long may it continue!

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Northernlassie1974 · 23/04/2017 20:47

Another update,
Eldest has now had 3 nights in a row waking up dry! Can't believe it! Would never have attenpted without advice and encouragment from others in here!
Thank you x

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YukoandHiro · 24/01/2024 19:05

I know this is a zombie thread, but wondered how it worked for the OP?
My DD is 6.5 and still not dry. Last has a proper crack last summer when she's just turned 6 and the first week or two went well(4 nights dry out of 7) but then she regressed wetting 4 or more times a night in a deep sleep. And when we woke her to change the bed she would scream and wake our toddler and it was awful so we gave up and went back to pull ups.
I can't decide whether to try again removing them (so much washing, I struggle to keep up anyway with working etc) and or just going straight to the GP. Her similar age friend is now on medication but I'm not sure how I feel about that either.

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