at a loss what to do!

[birdbrain21]

We're on thirs try of potty training my daughter. She's 2 and a half and has been ready for a few months saying when she's doing something, wanting a dirty nappy changed straight away and asking to go to the toilet. The first time she didn't actually seem to understand so we stopped straight away. A couple of months ago we tried again when I was off work and she did really well with not having any accidents but was just waiting till nap/bedtime and doing it in her nappy not the toilet. After a couple of days she weed in the toilet and we made a big fuss with stickers and chocolate etc. The next day she had a meltdown at even suggesting the toilet and took me two days to persuade her to go back on, she then did a wee and repeated the meltdown the next day. We decided to stop and wait aagain. I've been trying agin this week while we were off work again and thought she might prefer a potty to a toilet seat. She did 4 wees on it rhe first day and no accidents but then yesterday and today she's told me she needs to go has happily been sitting on it but nkt doing anything till she goes to bed with a nappy on! We've tried bribes, distracting with stories and videos while sitting on the potty bit she just holds it in. Really at a loss of what to do. She clearly has rhe control and talks really well so we know she understands she's just not doing it. I'm due a second baby in a few months and if we don't crack it this holiday won't be able to train her till next summer and don't want her having accidents at school. She goes to a private nursery who agree she's ready but also don't know how to help her. Sorry this is so long really hoping someone can give some tils or advice that will help us. Thanks

I'm on my phone please excuse typos

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You need to just stick with it. Potty training is the worst part of the early years, but it's something we all have to endure.

Keep doing what you're doing and she'll get it eventually.

The problem is she understands what to do and can do it, she isn't having accidents so has the control she just won't do it even when she's told me she needs to! She sits on the potty for ages then says she's finished without doing anything but I would lut a nappy on her she does something straight away so I know she did need it...

Stick with it. She'll get there. It's painful but it will happen.

Also it's not impossible to potty train with a tiny baby in the house. DD decided she didn't want to wear nappies anymore when DS was six weeks old. It made his early months interesting bug we got there.

Potty training is often hard, not because they can't do it, but because they choose not to. My eldest was the opposite to yours, she would deliberately wet herself. I don't know why. I'd put her on the potty, she'd refuse, saying she didn't need to go. Then as soon as her clothes were pulled up she'd grin like a Cheshire Cat and piss herself. Even nursery said it was mostly deliberate. We just didn't give her the attention, a quick "oh dear, never mind" clean her up and carry on with the day. We'd get through around 6 changes a day at the worst time. She soon stopped it though.

The key to potty training is to wait until they're ready (if she's holding in going, she's ready), pick a time and stick with it until it's sorted. It's easy to feel disheartened and give up.

My mum always said how easy potty training was, but in her day, nappies were awful and uncomfortable when wet, so children did potty train quicker generally. These days nappies are so good there's not so much incentive for them to change the status quo so they fight the potty.

Thanks I guess we just need to keep going then. It's just hard we tried staying in for 3 days and have to get out the house at some point also she's back at nursery this week so will have to see if she'll give in there...

If she isn't getting it however there's no problem stopping for another month or two. As I say potty training with a newborn has its challenges but at least they won't climb into the potty like an older baby might!

Thonk we're going to stick at it for now we had one mini wee in the potty today! Back to nursery on Thursday but they're really supportive so will hopefully not undo anything we've accomplished so far...