DS 3 yrs not bothered by dirty nappies !!

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My DS is 3.2 and still in nappies.( cloth ) and have been thinking about starting to potty train, only trouble is that DS REALLY doesn't care about sitting in his own mess and never has to be honest. And I don't just mean a sodden wet nappy! His poo's are seriously big and smelly (like any toddler I guess??) yet he will not acknowledge that he has done a poo. Every time I ask him if he has done a poo poo he shouts at me "NO! I Like POO POO!!" and refuse’s to have his nappy changed. ( thank god for nappy liners ) !!!

I’ll ask him to sit on the potty like a big boy and yet again he'll shout at the top of his voice at me. "I DON'T LIKE THE POTTY!!" I’m trying to encourage him to sit on the potty/toilet when he's in a better mood just to introduce it to him but to no avail.

My friends say that he'll tell me when he's ready but I’m getting sick of him not wanting to be clean or acknowledging the fact that he is sat in a huge poo. Could it be a sensory thing?? Liking the warmth of the nappy etc. Is it been my fault for starting PT this late ? Anybody else had this trouble???? Please help!!!

Ds was like that (2.11) but we basically bribed him at first to sit on potty to get used to it. So 1 episode of something on CBeebies etc and then we'd basically have no nappy afternoons ( he would run to his bedroom and grab nappy and try and put it on himself - throw potty, hold on to his wee so no wee for 4 hours once!) anyway he would soon just get on with playing and as soon as he mentioned wee I would dive with potty under him then praise him hugely for it - stickers etc
Once he liked the praise he would try the next day - we had a dry weekend this weejpkend and ventured out for first time.
Also help them choose a pack if pants in the shops and put them on as soon as they get home. Other thing which really worked was discussing the difference between wet and dry - thus might be easier with cloth nappies.

Thanks Andcake… I blame myself really for the situation ( was not completely honest with my original post ) were in with my DS due to the fact that when he was a bit younger around 2.2 yr I was not as prompt with nappy changes as I should have been and would often ( I know lazy mum of the year !!) delay changing his nappies. So now he has become comfortable with wet/dirty nappies. I am a single mum and just didn’t realise what effect my earlier actions in regards to prompt nappy changes could have resulted. Now I no :(

So you experience mums out there what is the next step, ditch the nappies and deal with the tantrums ??

How long did you leave her dirty for?

I'd focus on wees for now, when she is okay with weeing, then remove all nappies, removing nappies now is going to cause her to wee all over the place.

Don't beat yourself up. I always changed poos quickly but wet nappies left quite a while. I think take it a few steps at a time...concentrate on getting him sat on potty - I just let ds wander around pantless for a few afternoons and didn't stress then slowly built up to where we are now ( he had his first dry day at nursery today)In total it's taken us a month or two.
Also involve him as much as possible - choosing pants, choosing potty, buying stickers to be used as rewards. A cheap pack of Milky Way stars is still going - first used for a successful wee treat now only for successful poos

Also build up being a big boy and wearing pants and talk about how other children he knows uses pants.
Tbh potty, pants and everything involved feels like it's been our main topic of conversation all summer.
Use the library to look for books - I bought pirate potty Pete which was ok but helped get the conversation going.

I keep being told "he's not potty trained yet??!" (he's 2.3), I feel like I'm failing :( He just wees where he stands and isn't bothered at all by being wet, poos he doesn't like but he still messes. But when he's in pull-ups he tells us when he needs to do a poo about 80% of the time...I keep habing family tell me "well so-and-so was fully trianed with no accidents well before your DS's age!", like I'm being negligent or something...this whole potty training thing is sooooo stressful!

Andcake, that's really heartening to know how steadily you took the process! Everyone seems to say how their kids "got it" in only two days with "no accidents what so ever".