i am not sure what to do as we have been doing potty training for. Month now so are very far along and I don't want to confuse da by going back to nappies.
We started potty training coming up to 4 weeks ago with ds who was 2.7 at he time. He was showing all the signs except actually asking to wear pants and telling us he needed a wee.
Right from the start he has been fabulous at home And I thought how easy it was. We were staying in a lot and I can count the number of accidents he has had when in on one hand. He goes to the toilet of his own accord, even when I am not in the room , climbs onto it himself and pulls his own pants down And tries to wipe his own bum. We did try the potty but found he much prefers the toilet. So he definitely knows when he needs it.
The trouble is when we go out or when there are lots of things happening when he's playing with other children. At first there was loads of accidents when we went out and I realised I couldn't reply on him to tell me so we were going to the toilet every hour. He would refuse quite a lot as he didn't want to miss out on the fun but eventually would come but it would be a battle. He would either do a wee/poo or not and go back to playing. I would praise him if he went and he would be rewarded with a couple of smarties And if he didn't go I would praise him for having a go.
The number of accidents when we went out started to reduce and some days there were no accidents as long as I took him to the toilet every hour. But I feel like I am constantly on at him about whether he needs to go or not and he just says no all the time and then will have an accident 5 mins later. As soon as I am not asking him all the time and taking him every hour he has multiple accidents. Today he had 3 accidents, including a poo one, one after another after lunch even though I had taken him to the toilet half an hour before lunch. He comes to me to tell me so he is bothered by it.
I find myself getting really cross with him When this happens and going into a rant at him. I then feel very guilty about this as he's only little. But I can't understand why he is so bad when we are out but so great when we Are home. I think I am getting frustrated as I know he can do it. Perhaps it's because he just wears pants at home whereas when out he s in clothes? This is only the third poo accident he's had in total.
I am not sure what to do next. I have a lot on my plate with a newborn too and know I can't carry on getting angry with him every time he has an accident but I am finding the whole thing stressful. I can't stay in forever either! But because we ve come so far along the road and he is so great at home I am not sure if putting him back into nappies and trying again when he's older is the right thing to do either. What should I do?