Do I give up? Help!

[Satsunday]

It's only day 2 of potty training my 2.7 year old dd. It went ok yesterday (a couple of wees in the potty) but today she is refusing to sit on the potty and just stands and wees. I think she is holding everything in now until she can't hold it anymore as she might do a drop on the potty and then when she's off again goes on the floor when she can't hold it in anymore. She would also have had a poo by now but must be holding that in too.

At what point do you decide it's too early? Should I still be trying to get her on the potty or just leave her to work it out herself? I'm worried that everytime I suggest the potty I'm making her even more resistant to sitting on it. I felt quite confident before but now feel clueless as to what approach to take. Have used stickers and treats but the novelty seems to have worn off for her a bit.

Hang on in there! We are on day 5 with success. However days 1,2&3 were awful. She screamed every time I put her on the potty or toilet, so if she had an accident I said oh dear, mummy clean you up. Let's try to make the toilet next time. Days 4 & 5 she is off to the toilet on her telling me no I'm a big girl!! She can't pull her pants down or move her skirt out of the way or wipe ..... YET!!! We will keep at it

Wow ok thank you! Also since I posted this She has done one wee in the potty (although was so surprised when it happened she stood up and most of the wee went on the floor rather than the potty, but I'm not complaining!). I am going to stick with it, thanks for the words of encouragement!

Hey day 6 we went out to a park. We all had a wee before we left, I took the portable potty just in case. She didn't need it! Only one accident which was tonight after tea playing in garden so very proud of her today. Still can't pull down pants though lol!!
well done for 1st wee on potty!!!

It is hard going, isn't it?

My dd is 2.9 and has been in pants for 6 weeks. For us it has been up and down really. Day 1 was all excitement and giggles at being a big girl. Day 2 she actually begged to go back in nappies (I did straight away as she was so sad). Day 3 I asked her what she wanted and she said pants and so we continued.

After maybe 5 days of only occasional accidents but general good going she had a day or two of what I suspect were deliberate peeing in pants. Our ageing cat had wee'd in various places and was obviously ill so was getting lots of attention and we were cleaning up. Dd peed down the whole staircase and seemed utterly delighted with herself.

We ploughed on and she completely turned a corner. 6 weeks on she is 100% awesome at peeing. Pooing is still a massive trauma sadly and she may need a visit to the doc as she risks impaction.

Anyway, my advice is go with what is doable in the time you have. You have started now and it is going ok. Take each day as it comes though.

Good luck!

Are you bribing? I do find a choc button or star does help. My first daughter definitely took a number of days to get going but then by say day 5 was almost there on wees and went dry overnight (v unexpected), poos took longer though. My second daughter pretty much trained herself

Thanks everyone! Today we had a bit of a breakthrough! We went out in the garden, her with just a t-shirt on and I took the potty. She kept looking like she needed a wee so everytime she did I suggested she sit on the potty which she did quite willingly. This happened over and over with nothing. I got distracted and suddenly she shouted "mummy", ran towards the potty, sat on it and wee'd! I can't tell you how excited I was! Has since had a wee on the floor and poos are a whole different story but I feel like it's possible now, whereas yesterday I wondered if it was too early for her.

The thing I've found is not to put her on the potty myself - she likes to walk there herself but only when she's clearly desperate for a wee and I do have to suggest it once I see her jiggling about.

I was quite worried this morning as it got to 930am and she still hadn't had a wee since 530pm yesterday evening. She seems to be able to hold on for hours and hours.

Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone. I know it's still very early days but am feeling a lot better about it :)

I would definitely persevere on the basis of that! Brilliant

My DD is 3 now but I started when she was 2.6. The first 3 days were the hardest, she held it in and then would go on anything but the potty! Eventually it clicked and by 10 she was in full swing. She's dry day and night now but I still have to remind her to go and use the toilet!. There is a light but it's tough going..not looking forward to starting my DS >

Day 7 and its going well. Satsunday my lo is the same, hates me putting her on the toilet but will go to it on her own miss independent lol! Only 1 accident today when she was playing in the garden. Trip out yesterday to park, no accidents .

Wow daisie that's great!

passme if you're still there I realised I had missed the bit about the trouble you're having with dd and poos. I hope she is ok. Has she always had trouble with that or is it something that happened because of potty training?

Today didn't go quite as well as yesterday although got better again by the end of the day - she wee'd in her wellies (ran down her leg in the garden and she didn't notice (neither did I!)). She does not like sitting on the potty to wee - it seems to frighten her when she feels she's about to go. So now she asks for me to put a mat on the floor. She then stands and wees! But she looks surprised by it so I can only guess that she doesn't know how to consciously wee herself. She's also only weeing 3 times a day but I don't know if that's normal for her or if she is holding it in through not wanting to sit on the potty. Thankfully we had another success by the end of the day - I got her to sit on the potty and eventually she went and was absolutely thrilled with herself, although again seemed surprised by it! Day 5 tomorrow....

Day 5 is another day!!

Poos are becoming a bit of a trial, frankly. Thanks for asking - today was tough but it is nice to know we are not alone

We spent all weekend in the house as dd was practically doubled over with pain and trying to hold it in. She did do a poo which was rewarded with copious dancing and a special sweet but the whole excercise was repeated today albeit less painful as only a day rather than 5 days.

Wondering if a visit to the doc is worthwhile? We will try daily kiwi fruit firstborn

My oldest daughter has trouble with poos too so she has a few prunes a day but then she ends up going on and off all days sometimes.

Day 5 is awful so far. Two wees on the floor and no attempt to get to the potty. I think it's my fault as I was distracted and should have got her to sit on the potty. Sigh. Just feel like we are going backwards now rather than forwards.

No wees in the potty now so I'm on the verge of giving up. I thought the fact she took herself to the potty to wee two days ago meant she was ready but since then she just wees in the floor so maybe I should wait a few more weeks then try again.

Oh no pass maybe try peppermint tea? No caffeine in it, helps slot with my ibs. Sometimes I make it for my lo if she hasn't been for a day. She doesn't drink it all and generally will then go to the loo.
sat maybe she isn't quite ready yet?? Hate to say it as I've tried a few times over the last 6 months but this time it's worked
Day10 we have had 2 days without accidents and both days poo on the toilet. I will add day 8 was awful, she wee'd everywhere and poo'd on the sofa (thank god for washable bed mats as I had put it on the sofa for her to sit on. Poo everywhere!!)
How's today?

pass & satsun how are you both doing?

Not well. On day 6 I rang the health visitor and she suggested I stop as she didn't sound ready. In hindsight I wish I'd carried on :( Now not looking forward to the next attempt. She refuses to sit on the potty at all unless I'm feeding her chocolate at the same time! So have stopped asking her for a while too.

How are you doing daisee?

Just wanted to jump in :), I had a similar situation with my DS Satsunday. I tried once for 2 days and he just didn't seem to get it. I got frustrated and although I tried not to express disappointment he really sensed it and kept apologising when he weed on the floor - I felt absolutely awful. I stopped after that and tried again a few weeks later, about 3 I think, and it went much better. I started with pull ups and encouraging him to use the potty every half hour or so, he would only do this for chocolate and sometimes I had to physically out him on it as he'd scream. After a few days of not seeming to get anywhere I put him in pants and it went much better. Day 1 and 2 a bit hit and miss, day 3 great with accidents only first thing in the morning (about 5 but still!) and day 4 just one accident when he was engrossed in playing and I forgot to remind him. Today he's been taking himself off to the potty and he even asked when we were out. Don't look on stopping as a failure, just use it as a really good start. It sounds like it's just confidence that she needs to build and it will happen eventually.

With regards to poo, I have to put the potty in another room and then leave him to it. He jumps on and off it before eventually going but he tells me to hide because he doesn't want to be seen. He sometimes wants the potty behind the sofa, if I'm sitting in the room where he can see me he absolutely won't go. So that might be something to try.