DS regressing! Help!

[dancewiththetreedoug]

Please, for the love of god, I hope someone has some advice. I'm at the end of my tether!!

DS (was 3 in march) has been completely dry since December. However, we moved house, to a completely new area in March and he has recently started a new pre school.
Since starting pre school he has an accident at every session although, still dry at home.
BUT...yesterday, I collected him and noticed he'd had an accident at school. Fine, I thought, these things happen. Got him home, changed him and left him to play trains while I got on with dinner. 10 minutes later he'd come downstairs, having wet himself at home. No warning, nothing??? Then the same thing has happened this morning!

I am at a complete loss, I ask him why and he says "coz I did" he has a step in both bathrooms, he knows how to open the door if it's closed. There is no reason he can't go to the toilet.

Please help! I feel like the worst mum in the world right now

Sorry for the essay too!

First of all he is only three. He can't rationalise his behaviour as in ' if I have dry pants it will make it easier for my Mummy!
Something has happened that has rocked his little world and the clue is that he has started a new Pre - School.
Horrible and annoying as it is to you, this phase will pass. Everything does eventually.
However if you are tense and cross, he will know. He won't exactly know why you are annoyed with him but he will certainly sense that maybe you are not pleased with him.
He can't articulate why he is doing what he is doing, because he is only three and he hasn't got the vocabulary or the maturity.
So, as he can't change, the only thing that you can do is try and relax. Praise him every time he goes to the Lavatory and maybe try stickers and reassurance and cuddles.
His emotional welfare and memories of a happy stress free childhood are surely worth a few wet pants.
Honestly it wil pass, all my Dcs, regressed, went forward, regressed, etc etc. Hugs, as it is not easy.

Thanks.
However, I am neither cross or annoyed at him - and if I was he definitely wouldn't see that. I'm more concerned that he seems to be getting no warning, for example, I was sat playing with him this morning and he'd wet himself. It was only when he stood up and I noticed the wetness that he seemed to realise he'd done it.
We have a reward chart and I'm prompting him every half an hour, I think I'll take it as starting from the beginning.
In other news he was completely dry at school yesterday, which is a relief!
I do also think I over reacted yesterday, hormones are raging as I am pregnant with DC2!!!

I hoped you weren't cross with him. I wasn't suggesting you were a bad Mum either. I have brought lots of Dcs to adult hood and I know everything passes.
Bringing up children is damn hard and I felt exhausted many a time. Throttling a few of them came in to mind when I was dog tired. I didn't act upon it though as I did not have a happy childhood.
To me you sound as though you are doing everything right. Something has disturbed him, but hopefully whatever it is will pass soon.
One of my boys wet the bed on and off until he was ten. It is more common than you think.
My daughters were dry much earlier and I don't think they ever wet the bed.

Thank you, it is flipping exhausting!

Today has been much better, just the one accident this morning. The sticker reward chart seems to be helping.

I think I completely underestimated how much the house move/new pre school/baby has affected him. Poor little mite has been through a lot lately!

Aw , you sound like an ace Mum. Honestly the more you treat your children like you would like to be treated, with respect, firmly but fairly, and get down to their level, the more they will want to come back when they are adults.
We all make mistakes though. Mine make me shudder.
My Dcs all come back and so do their wives, husbands and beloved Grandchildren.
Even so I suffer from guilt. I think all parents do. I wish I had had MumsNet when I was young.
Hope all goes well with the new baby as that is really going to rock his boat. However with lots of love and awareness ( which you obviously have) your little family will be fine.