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3yr old doesn't like public toilets!Help

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tashbash · 10/04/2015 22:03

My DD has been fully toilet trained day and night for so long I can't remember how long, she is 3years old.. never use too have any accidents would tell me she needs a wee and whatever toilet we went too was fine for her.. Now she won't use them unless she has weed a bit in her knickers!! She says she needs a wee, then realises that means public toilets and then insists that she doesn't need a wee, a few times I've tried to get her to go because I know she does, but she gets herself in such a state about it, i don't know what to do, I don't want to try and force her but it's not good for her to hold it all day til she has an accident, I just don't understand why she all of a sudden has a problem with them..

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FadedRed123 · 10/04/2015 22:04

Have you asked her?

Haggisfish · 10/04/2015 22:05

My dc both hate the hand dryers on them.

Rosa · 10/04/2015 22:05

Noisy hand driers possibly ??? Especially the Dyson ones. Both mine went through real terror with them .

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tashbash · 10/04/2015 22:11

Yes I've asked her why and she just insists she doesn't need to use it.. And no its not the hand dryers, she uses them quite happily.. I could be we wrong but she sometimes refers to the toilets as dirty, could that be what's bothering her? But yet she goes toilet perfectly fine at home and nursery and other child friendly places. I really don't get it :(

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drspouse · 10/04/2015 22:25

Mine doesn't like them because they are "bobbly" (wobbly i.e. high and big, not like his loo seat at home). I hold his hands while he's on them and he's getting better. I also go myself and ask him if he wants to go first or let me go first. If all else fails I pick him up bodily and hold him on for a count of 5 (these are all after the tell tale fiddle or wiggle!)
Have you thought about going back to a portable potty?

Haggisfish · 10/04/2015 22:50

Well tbf lots of adults don't like public toilets because they smell and are perceived to be dirty! Can you try some of those paper disposable toilet seat covers?

splishsplosh · 10/04/2015 23:01

My dd2 went through a phase when she was 3 where she would refuse to go in public toilets - she would insist she could wait til we got back home, even when we were a couple of hours from home. She thought they were dirty as well... her preference would be an al fresco wee over public toilets, or I sometimes had to hold her over the seat as she wouldn't sit on it. It was a very frustrating phase! It passed in the end but not because I found any magic solution I'm afraid.

GrouchyKiwi · 10/04/2015 23:11

DD1 wouldn't use them until I started putting paper on the seat for her to sit on. Apparently they were cold and "yucky". So that might be worth a try?

It's also good at catching the drips when they get off too early and you can just tip the paper into the loo afterwards without any fuss.

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tashbash · 11/04/2015 08:01

Thankyou for your help, will try somethings suggested :)

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claraschu · 11/04/2015 08:13

I used to sit behind my kids on big toilets sometimes (with my trousers up, obviously, not aiming for simultaneous weeing). It made my kids feel secure and relaxed, and there is room, if you are small-medium sized, I think.

I would give the toilet a wipe first.

salman1108 · 11/04/2015 08:47

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mumteedum · 11/04/2015 08:57

I recently bought a fold up kids loo seat. It was a tenner on amazon but my 3 yr old loves it. Made big difference when out and about.

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