Lazy toddler?

[hannylou83]

Good evening ladies,

I am hoping to try and gain some comfort and advise in my little man's toileting.

My little man is 4 in August ( currently 3 1/2 years old) and he is still going through phases or being dry all day/week, to having 1+ accidents a day! We are not dry at night - i put him to bed in pull ups

I think he is pretty much there when it comes to wee's - or he tells me " mummy i need a wee" so that gives me a chance to say hold it , whilst rushing to a loo/bush etc.

But when it comes to the no.2's we are a disaster!!

I am not sure whether its a case of

a) He is too busy playing to want to stop and go off for a poo
b) He doesnt know he is pooing
c) He is scared/ embarrassed etc about going for a poo.

I have told him on many occasions to either tell me when he needs to poo or to just go to the potty and do one. A very small percentage of the time he will take himself - some times he gets it spot on, other times we get the little skids in the pants where its a bit of a close call. Other times he just stands there and the face goes - i have to then throwing him ( not literally) on the loo, to the result of it coming straight out! Other times i'll say if your farting, go and sit on the loo as sometimes thats the trigger he needs to get him there. ( He is not very good at getting straight to the loo, normally "fanny's around" with taking his pants down, or putting toys down)

I am worried ( which probably scares him subconsciously ) that we wont crack it before he goes to school in September! Today alone at nursery he had 3 poo accidents ( which could of been a dicky tum) but he just stood there and did it - probably couldnt control the runny ones. Do i make nursery sit him on the loo about 10 mins after lunch- would that confuse him or make him rely on someone telling him when to go? or do i keep let him make the decisions.

He has been going through a funny phase for the last few months where something triggers an upset tum in him so ive tried to stop milk and fish - he has alpro soya milk instead.

Sorry for waffling on - i'm one worried mummy

Any ideas/ suggestions/ nursery ideas etc are VERY VERY gratefully received

Hannah

I can't speak from experience, but having read around, how do you deal with the accident once it's happened? Apparently, with older DC, if you put the responsibility on them to get themselves cleaned up (with a bit of help obviously) they can get bored very quickly and decide it's easier to just go to the loo/potty? It was a thread on here where I read that.

I do keep telling him that it is his job to be nice and dry - but he just stares blankly
sometimes he says he doesnt know he needs to poo- or that it came too quickly

If i ask him " where do you do your poo's/wee's" and he says in the potty - but is that because i drum it into him?

I've got a 3.5 yr old too in the midst of potty training. He can have dry days but poos are just a nightmare ??

He likes to be in enclosed private spaces to poo, won't admit to doing it when he is in the middle of doing one etc. I've tried to give him privacy on the toilet but to no avail. Just hoping it will start to click...