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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Peeing frequency 3 yr old boy - advice please!

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LittleGreyBear · 29/03/2015 20:20

Hopefully, someone will have had a similar experience...

I tried potty training my DS last month (at 3yrs 1 month). He was really keen and asked me if he could wear his pants and use the potty, so I went for it. I had intended to wait a bit longer as his nappy never seemed dry during the day. It seemed to go well and he got it within a few hours (telling me he needed to go, holding it in, taking himself to the potty, peeing & pooing in potty).

However, he peed every 30 minutes throughout the whole day. (I put him back in nappies the next day as I thought he might not be physically ready).

My question is this: does peeing this often mean his body is not ready yet OR does he need to just learn how to pee less often (ie. by persevering with potty training)?

Has anyone been through anything similar? I know all kids are different but if anyone has any advice that would be much appreciated!

Thanks

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OutragedFromLeeds · 30/03/2015 00:14

So he wanted to come out of nappies. He manages within a few hours to master going to the potty, but you put him back in nappies because he was weeing too frequently for your schedule?! You've made an error there.

Yes, kids wee more frequently when they're first potty training. He'll learn to go longer between wees with time. It may well just be the novelty of going on the potty, he'll soon get used to it and not want to go all the time.

You need to take the nappies off. Unless you're changing his nappy every half hour, you're making a child who is aware enough to ask for his nappy off and to go on the potty when he needs to, to sit in his own wee. That is not right.

Jasonandyawegunorts · 30/03/2015 02:36

I had intended to wait a bit longer as his nappy never seemed dry during the day.

I'm confused, did you expect him to be able to suddenly be able to hold it the whole day after being in a nappy for 3 years?

If he knows when he has to go it means he has gained control, imagine how small his bladder is compared to yours. over time he will learn how to judge how much he can wait but for now he's doing really well.

SomedayMyPrinceWillCome · 30/03/2015 10:51

It might be worth checking with your GP, urinary frequency (peeing a lot) can sometimes associated with a urinary infection or very rarely diabetes. How is he in himself? If he is otherwise we'll & healthy it's very unlikely to be anything serious.

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LittleGreyBear · 30/03/2015 11:30

Thanks a lot for your replies.
Just to clarify what I meant, most "checklists" of whether your child is ready say that they should have periods of 1-2 hours during the day when their nappy is dry (which he doesn't have). That, combined with the fact that he peed so often, made me question whether he was physically ready...

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LittleGreyBear · 30/03/2015 11:36

Thanks for the point about the GP too. Worth bearing in mind.

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Marioswife · 30/03/2015 14:09

Honestly if its a frequent as every half an hour I'd use a nappy, at least when out, it's far too restricting.

OutragedFromLeeds · 30/03/2015 14:37

If a child has control and asks for their nappy off it is not reasonable to keep them in nappies because it is inconvenient for you to have to take them! He will learn to wait longer with practise. Practise he won't get in a nappy.

Asking to go every half hour doesn't actually mean he needs to go every half hour. If he had been told to wait, he quite probably could have done.

Marioswife · 30/03/2015 17:19

Out of the house is different though.

OutragedFromLeeds · 30/03/2015 22:41

No, it's not.

He either can control it or he can't (unless he has an unusual psychological disorder whereby he loses all bladder control outside of the house).

If he can control it he should not be in nappies, no matter how inconvenient it is for whoever is looking after him.

wonderstuff · 30/03/2015 22:47

My DD kept needing to go a few minutes after she'd already been at that age, a nurse friend recommended her counting to 10 and trying again when she went to the loo - she wasn't quite emptying her bladder, too keen to be off and doing something more interesting - that did help a lot - but she wasn't going every half hour, she'd go a few hours, then need to go twice in close succession.

Marioswife · 31/03/2015 10:06

You are supposed to have 12 billion changes of clothes if you are out all day are you?

OutragedFromLeeds · 31/03/2015 12:37

Firstly, yes. When potty training you will need to take several changes of clothes with you.

More importantly though, if you read the OP you will see 'It seemed to go well and he got it within a few hours (telling me he needed to go, holding it in, taking himself to the potty, peeing & pooing in potty)'. He isn't having accidents. Why would he need a change of clothes? Do you change your clothes everytime you successfully use the toilet?!

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LittleGreyBear · 31/03/2015 15:21

I think i will give it another go - hopefully he'll learn how to pee less often once we get going with the training. The fact that he can hold it in enough to make it to the potty means he does have some control over his bladder. I can always invest in a travel potty for when we're out and about. I think I'd rather ditch the nappies totally. Thanks for your replies.

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Marioswife · 01/04/2015 08:39

He isn't having accidents. Why would he need a change of clothes? Do you change your clothes everytime you successfully use the toilet?!

you can't always make it to a toilet when you are out with a child, sometimes the time between them telling you they have to go and them going can be 50 seconds.

At home that would be a success outside it wouldn't.

OutragedFromLeeds · 01/04/2015 19:21

There is definitely more risk of an accident outside the house. That is something you just have to risk though, you can't keep them in nappies just because you can't be bothered to take them to the toilet or bring a change of clothes. Only a complete idiot would plan a day out, away from toilets the day after starting potty training. You just stay close to home or stick to places that have a toilet, it's not rocket science. He went from nappies to successfully using the potty in a few hours, there is every reason to suspect he would manage to hold it/wait longer within a day or two. In this situation it was the wrong decision to put him back in nappies.

Marioswife · 03/04/2015 15:22

He went from nappies to successfully using the potty in a few hours

Good for you, well done, hip hip hurray!

Not everyone has the fantastic ability and lifestyle you have, obviously.

Every child is different I'm afraid, so i apologise for being a "complete Idiot" you highness and i can only hope I'm forgiven in the future.

OutragedFromLeeds · 03/04/2015 15:50

It's not my child, it's the OP's child!

And we're not talking about all children, we're talking about the OP's child. What other children do is irrelevant to this discussion.

SnowCurl · 16/04/2015 18:59

Hello

Not sure whether this is helpful. When we were potty training I did end up taking extra clothes out -2 changes for short journeys. I also invested in a Potette plus (collapsible potty/toilet seat) as found potty carrying a faff and little man was too small for toilets. Not blowing a trumpet here, but didn't drive so had to lug the stuff around with a pushchair. Was it convenient? Not really, as I was pregnant at the time. The point I am trying to make is that it can be done and perseverance is key. I just tried to make things easier for us when out and about.
My son did do lots of little wees to start with too. I think that can be common to start with as they get used to recognising sensations they were not used to. It does take time for them to hold it longer but if you are worried a trip to the GP can't hurt. I would think unless you notice really smelly wee, blood or discharge its unlikely to be an infection.

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