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One poo in potty in 6-8 weeks - should we give up?

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BeachBumMum2 · 09/03/2015 14:50

We started training my ds1 (he'll be 3 end of June) in mid-January. He got the hang of wees really quickly. He seems to have the bladder of a camel - and very good bladder control so he very very rarely has accidents out and about. We have to encourage him to have a wee. We're still not at the 'I need a wee' stage - maybe he's said it once or twice. But generally we say it's time to use the potty (ie before leaving house, before bath, before nap etc). He does a big wee and that's it for a few hours.
Poos on the other hand are a completely different story! He has managed one. And got a James red engine for it!
I have had to fish a lot of poos out of pants and pj bottoms over the last couple of months! He knows he needs a poo and goes off to have one - but he point blank refuses to go on the potty. I think he's scared. He's very distressed if we put him on it.
Last couple of days wees have gone haywire too - and I think it could be either because he's been needing a poo, or he's being stubborn. He definitely knows he needs a wee - he's just refusing to sit on the potty. Aaaaaaaaahhhh. I have a 7 month old, I've just started working again and I just feel too tired to deal with this. Our childminder thinks we should go back to nappies (her dd2 went backwards and forwards like this until it clicked). I think she is also sick of fishing out poos. My dh is not happy about going backwards. No idea what to do. My concern now is that I've had a bad few weeks (work wise, lack of sleep etc) and I'm really starting to lose my patience - I don't want to give him a complex, or make him feel naughty. Help! Any advice very welcome. Do we just soldier on until he gets the hang of poos? Or go backwards?

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fustybritches · 09/03/2015 15:52

I had this problem. What solved it for me was to pinpoint when dd needed a poo, then at that time let her play alone in her bedroom with a bare bum.

The first day, she did a poo on the floor, the next day she did it on the potty and has done ever since. That was our routine for a while, to get her comfortable with the idea.

BeachBumMum2 · 11/03/2015 22:08

What brilliant advice - thanks fustybritches. I'm definitely going to try this. It makes complete sense. He just needs some alone time and no pressure.

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Misty9 · 15/03/2015 18:57

Totally feel your pain - and I've just posted a similar thread! Our problem is compounded by ds not having any routine to his pooing schedule...Sometimes it's three in a day, sometimes none.

I'm impressed that you've kept your temper - I'm afraid we struggled to and had a phase of telling him off. Obviously didn't help, but it's so frustrating.

If your ds is still scared of the potty could he ask for a nappy to do a poo? Or place one in the potty?

Something we've had some success with is reading pirate Pete potty book and captain of the toilet books to keep him on the loo!

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