My dd is three years and two months. She is dry, but will not poo on either the toilet or potty and ends up pooing her pants. It isn't predictable and can happen at any time of day, she will not tell us when she needs to go and even when she has gone, she will often deny it.
She started at a school nursery three weeks ago. She has been going in a pull up (their request) and when she has soiled herself, they have phoned us to go and change her. Today when this happened, the nursery teacher said it would be better if I didn't bring her back until she is continent, even if that isn't until September and suggested two weeks of really intense potty training to sort it out, as if it were that simple, and I obviously haven't tried hard enough to train her until now! (Yes, I really enjoy changing pooey pants and nappies).
A quick Google suggests that they can't actually do this and that it's illegal to deny a child a nursery place because of incontinence, but I want to get my facts absolutely watertight before I speak to the Head about this so if anyone can point me towards any Guidance, I'd be really grateful. She really enjoys nursery and is very upset that they have said this.
I should say, I'm certain she's not constipated - she goes every day and it is usually quite soft. I also think that pushing her more is the wrong thing to do and may make the problem worse - I think she'll eventually sort it out in her own time.
Thanks