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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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wont poo on toilet only nappy:(

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dollysocksx · 17/01/2015 19:45

hey all! my3yr old little boy will wee happily on the toilet but never poo on there just physically says he can't and just has to have a nappy too poo, I don't know what to try any suggestions please x

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mewkins · 17/01/2015 19:48

Only thing that worked with dd was pure bribery. She was scared of pooing in the potty/ toilet and the whole episode nearly broke me. The key was to get her to do it a few times so she could see that nothing bad would happen. I had to actually hold her on the potty for this. It wasn't pretty. But once we got past that it was ok.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 17/01/2015 19:54

DD1 only wanted to poo in her nappy. We tried bribery with limited success. In the end I just put her in pants & let her decide for herself, staying totally calm & 'never mind' if she did go in her pants. She soon decided going on the potty was preferable to pooing in her pants & being cleaned up afterwards.

Pancakeflipper · 17/01/2015 20:45

We had similar. The break through for us was something I dismissed as ridiculous. We put a nappy over the loo seat - so he'd sit on the loo and instead of the poo plopping into the water - it went into the nappy. Worth a go - well anything is worth a try.

Eventually I told him we had run out nappies so could he try to just do it on the loo without the nappy and that was the end of nappies.

Honeymoonmummy · 17/01/2015 20:56

My son did exactly the same. I can't remember what I did in the end but it did pass

defaulttodippy · 17/01/2015 21:13

A tip from a friend worked for my son. We were in exactly the same situation as you and about the same age.

I bought a pack of pants with my son's favourite character on (Thomas the Tank at the time) and just kept reinforcing " don't poo on Thomas, must keep Thomas nice and clean and use the toilet" and words to that effect. Worked a treat.

A few other friends have also tried this and it's worked for them too.

Parietal · 17/01/2015 21:16

i've the same problem. i can't claim to have run out of nappies because she still has them at night. i've tried bribery / sticker charts but it hasn't worked yet. I'm slightly ignoring the issue for a bit, in the hope that she will one day decide that she is big enough to manage on the loo.

Ihavealwaysbeenastorm · 17/01/2015 21:22

My DD is 3 and has literally only stopped pooing in her night time pull up. I didn't do anything, or just gave her time and tried not to show too much annoyance. One day she drank alot of apple juice and literally couldn't hold it until bedtime so I set her in the potty and she did it.
A potty is good as it is a better shape for encouraging poo as their knees are pulled up a bit.
OP it will happen, I know it's horrible to deal with but give him time and it will happen.

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dollysocksx · 17/01/2015 21:46

thank u all very much for your comments :) x

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Littlefish · 17/01/2015 21:53

The ERIC website has some very helpful advice for exactly this problem.

The ERIC Website

The advice sheet for moving from pooing in a nappy to pooing on a toilet

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dollysocksx · 18/01/2015 10:29

thanks @Littlefish

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mewkins · 18/01/2015 19:34

Oh and another thing that helped is to work out the time they normally poo eg.after dinner. And every day sit them on the toilet for a good 20mins or half an hourwith books etc for them to focus on going. WWith dd it took her flipping ages to focus and produce anything so making the time really helped. Also yes, potty is easy as better position to be in!

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dollysocksx · 18/01/2015 23:08

thanks @mewkins he hates the potty and prefers to "try" on the toilet even tho we could sit there for hours on end and he would still refuse to go, it's a horrible situation to go through !! thanks again x

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munchkinmaster · 19/01/2015 01:16

Watching with interest.......

footyfan · 19/01/2015 01:33

Have you asked if there's anything in particular they don't like about it?

My DS was the same. I finally realised he hated someone being with him. He was fine as soon as I started leaving the bathroom.

They all get there in the end, it just doesn't feel like it at the time!

Littlefish · 19/01/2015 06:20

Blowing bubbles, blowing one of those windmill things that go round and round, or singing are all ways to encourage the right muscles when sitting on the toilet or potty.

nowwearefour · 19/01/2015 06:33

My dd1 was 4.25 before she agreed to poo in the loo. Poo goes to pooland story won through in the end for us. Look for it online!

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dollysocksx · 20/01/2015 19:49

thanks everyone!! @nowwearefour we have tried poo land story and his reply is "that place would stink wouldn't it mum" feel asthough I wanna scream but wonder how scary It must actually be for him my little man ! worries me kids will laugh in nursery about it but I guess he's not the only one x

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RainbowInACloud · 20/01/2015 20:22

We bought a fishing game. They sit in the toilet with a little rod and fish for little fishes in a small pond thing on the floor. So distracting and sorted it for us- good luck!

Dropdeadfred2 · 20/01/2015 20:26

I would seriously just stop buying nappies....put him in pants only...at first just buy lots of cheap ones and be prepared to throw them out...if the option isn't there he will adjust

honeybeeplusone · 20/01/2015 20:28

Hi, my daughter was the same - it passed on its own. I felt putting pressure on her was just making her constipated so we stopped anything and she started using the toilet after a while. Good luck!

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dollysocksx · 20/01/2015 20:32

thanks all for fab comments, ! glad to see I wasn't the only one in the situation! I've only been buying cheap nappies as he literally has a poo then straight back too pants! all in good time thanks again all

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Lucked · 20/01/2015 21:21

Well we have the same problem so went for pants and now he poos his pants every day. My DS poos at least twice a day and it is wearing. When I ask him why he says "it's complicated.."

We had limited success before Christmas with Santa bribery but I think we have only done one in the toilet since Christmas Day.

I like the idea of games, I think part if the problem is getting him to sit still long enough but I also think he prefers to poo standing. Off to check out the Eric website.

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dollysocksx · 20/01/2015 21:33

hi @Lucked my LB won't go in his pants which I can't moan about but he went once on the toilet about a year ago now which I was so shocked and he came and told me and showed me and I was the proudest mummy as u can imagine smallest poo ever but best proudest feeling ever! but ever since he doesn't wanna know I leave him be if he wants to be alone but his fave thing at the mo is I wanna fluff on the toilet I think its a start though x

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munchkinmaster · 20/01/2015 22:50

My wee one won't poo in pants so ends up not pooing at all for a day or so and will then go in nighttime nappy or a pull up put on for a car journey etc . I worry she will get constipated and make things worse. Hence don't think cold turkey would work.

NotInGuatemalaNowDrRopata · 20/01/2015 23:02

My DS1 did this. I think he was scared about the deep toilet. I got him a really cool potty with squishy seat which he liked using. To get him onto the big toilet, I would throw a quite bit of toilet paper down to fill it up so it didn't look deep - no alarming plop and no splash back!

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