Those with late potty trainers - how old were they?

[MamOfTwo]

If you had a late potty trainer, how old were they when they cracked it? DD is 3.7 and despite attempts she just can't seem to get it. I even took her to the doctor the other day in case there was something medical preventing her from doing it. GP didn't seem worried and said she will do it in her own time. So, just wondered if there was anyone out there whose child trained later than 3.7?

Really glad to have found this thread. My dd is 3.3 and I have just removed the car seat cover as it's soaked with wee! We're on day 5 of pants, having had several goes before. I am inclined to get the nappies out again as she is just not interested. She doesnt even tell me when she's wet herself - just sits there soaking. She is better with poo. My husband and his mum seem to think it's something to be ashamed of, not having her trained by now, but we had similar experiences with our ds snd when he got it, he got it.

She has been dry every morning at nursery but consistently wets herself at home. She doesn't get upset, isn't interested in reward charts and asks to wear a nappy.

I'm not sure accusing anyone of lazy parenting helps.

DS is 3.3 and has only been interested a few times. We've tried choc buttons, pants under nappies, pirate petes potty training book, going without a nappy... He sees us and other kids using the toilet.

When we've put him in pants and asked him to tell us when he needs the loo, he says he won't... And he won't sit on the toilet/potty every 20 minutes either just in case.

We ask nursery's advice all the time. They say leave him to it. He'll be ready when he's ready. We're well aware of the cost of nappies, I'd love to stop using them for that reason alone!

Which part of that is lazy parenting?

I can't really offer any help but my 3.5 yr old is still in nappies full time :-(

I'm afraid I think it's very lazy parenting not potty training.

willowsp My dd was totally potty trained at age 20 months. So boo to you - beats your 2yrs 3 months!

Now my ds is 2yrs 11months and I'm really struggling. We've tried, and he's made himself literally ill with the holding on.

Don't judge others. You just got lucky.

Lazy parenting? Really? So the fact my dd is 4 1/2 and still not toilet trained is down to my lazy parenting and nothing to do with her sn. If only i knew .

Yeah, scoose, you lazy cow. Pull your finger out will you?

Just to be clear - I was paraphrasing willowsp further up thread - hope you don't think the lazy comment was my own?!

Wow. I came onto this thread looking for some help and at first I felt so relieved that other people were having similar problems to me. Then I read willowsp. I am now really upset and absolutely seething.

DS is 3.4. He's been in pants since he was 3 and wears a nappy at night. He doesn't seem to realise when he needs to poo and only ever poos in his pants. Whenever I think we've at least cracked wees he has another accident.

I'm starting to worry as he'll be starting school in September.

Have other people had their children starting school still having accidents? What happened?

I was seething too but we're probably best to just ignore them. If only the answer was as simple as us parents stopping being so lazy!

I don't know Blobby. DS won't start school til he's nearly 5 (Oct birthday) so we have some breathing space. I would imagine it's more common than you think but I don't know...

don't worry cookie I know it wasn't your comment

I started a thread the other day. DD is 3.4 and seemingly has a massive psychological problem with weeing on the potty or toilet. She's never managed it. She will sit and FIGHT the urge to urinate.

It must be nice for willowisp, having such perfect children. But toileting can be a massively difficult, very complex thing for some children. Mine is one of the most stubborn three year olds on earth, and toileting is just one of the ways in which she chooses to express that...

OP here - just noticed this thread in Active so thought I'd pop back to update!

My first DD trained at 2.3 (dry day and night). However DD2 (whom prompted this thread and many other threads I have started in this topic!) has made huge progress since I started this thread. I think she finally cracked it in November so she was 3.8. A sticker chart really worked for us (1 sticker for a wee, 2 for a poo, 3 if she went unprompted - then a treat if she had 10 stickers at the end of the day: the treat that worked for us was watching an episode of Peppa Pig on YouTube!)

She has regressed a little over Christmas holidays and has started having the odd accident so have re-introduced the sticker chart.

Please, all those of you struggling, ignore the lazy parenting comment upthread. Every child is different and does it in their own way and in their own time. DD1 trained in a matter of weeks. It is coming up to a YEAR training DD2. It is a long road but we are getting there (never thought I'd be able to say that a few months back!). Good luck, everyone!

Glad to hear you're doing so well Mam. There's hope!

We tried sticker charts with DS re getting them to eat his dinner. He had one more sticker to go before he got a treat, and then refused to eat his dinner for three nights. I even made one of his favourites on at least one of those nights, but there was no budging him. He is bloody stubborn when he wants to be.

The sticker chart is now hidden.

To be fair to DS, he has a bit of constipation this week. So definitely not the time to bring up potty training. Mind you, I'm not convinced it's particularly bothering him. He's playing up to it when it suits him, and claiming he's not poorly at all when it doesn't.

Mine was very stubborn and finally got it at age 3.5. I think she had the bladder control before then but just didn't want to do it. She started preschool in pull ups and another dc laughed at her. So she decided to wear pants the next day had two accidents in the next few days and was dry day and night from then on. But I think that her friend was much more willing to sit on the potty but just didn't have the same bladder control. She was having accidents at school until age 7. To some extent I think it's an individual thing and as such some really do need to practise over a period of time whereas for others there's just a point where they're just dry from that point on. I knew mine could do it because I'd get up early morning to use the loo and check her nappy whilst she was asleep. It would be completely dry then she'd wake up and wee in the nappy.

This is a very reassuring thread, thankyou!

DS was 2.10 and cracked it in a wk. So I thought I'd leave DD until a bit later when she was definitely ready and assumed similar would happen... Silly me, after one day in pants when she got really really distressed about one accident and then hopped around on the spot until I put the nappy back on, she has decided it is not for her. And no amount of pretty pants, bribes, potty books or pink potties will convince her to even put the pants on, let alone sit on a potty. A late starter by choice, not because she's not ready.... There doesn't seem to be much advice for this scenario, other than just to wait and she'll do it when she's ready.

She has just turned 3, and has a new baby sister, so am pretty sure there are some underlying anxieties about wanting to stay as a little girl going on too. So, am telling myself not to worry, and hoping that at some point soon, she will decide to give it another go. Hadn't tried pants under nappy, so will definitely give that a try, thanks.

Rant required...

DS been ill with constipation for two weeks now. After the first lot of meds, now instead of no poo, we've got frequent teeny amounts. Nowhere near enough to clear the blockage. They changed his meds today. MIL thinks it would be a good opportunity whilst he's pooing so often to potty train.

WTF?! He's ill!

Rant over.

I never potty trained my elder two, I decided they'd do it themselves when ready. Dd was just gone 2, and trained herself in a day. Ds was 4.5, and has never had an accident day or night.
I figured they'd work it out themselves when they were ready, so what the hell was the point in creating extra work. Lazy parenting, but it works!

DS1 is 5.5 and still has accidents poo and wee although hs been much improved in the last month. Did it at 3. But regressed at 4 when he started school. Has been a bloody nightmare. Still wears nappy at night and it's full every morning. DS2 is 2.7 and have just started with him. He's not interested. Won't sit on potty. Will we and poo in pull-ups or pants and sit in it and not care. I have no confidence that he will do it because his brother has been so awful.

My daughter is 3yrs 2mnth and has regressed for some reason these last few days. She would wee in the loo no probs and was even dry thru the night quite regularly. I struggled more with the poos, and even had to go back to wearing pullups, which I was really reluctant to do but I couldn't stand the constant mess and chucking knickers, tights etc in the bin! But she even did 98% of her poos in the loo in the end.

Now, just as I was about to go back to knickers only, she's gone backwards and will happily wee and poo in her pullups, whereas she would always say "wee wee toilet" or "poopoo toilet". I'm bloody gutted!!

So I'll be making a fresh sticker chart and maybe taking the advice to give a small treat at the end of the day if she's consistantly used the loo. Think I'll stock up on knickers and also try the knickers in the pullups approach. At least that way I won't be afraid to go out and about with her ( we're viewing houses currently ) and especially to soft plays too, where an accident would be mortifying TBH !!

Pooey knickers will get slung but the wet ones can get recycled. Can't be dealing with caked, pooey kecks, but at least this way there's damage limitation as an accident is nicely contained! Could do with carrying sm scissors to just cut off the knickers at the side though, if full of poo

So glad I found this thread though. I can't help but compare her with other kids around her age and they're all toilet trained

Can I check in? DD has just turned 3 and I swear everyone else we know is potty trained already. Today is day 1 and it is NOT going well She is screaming and crying at most attempts to get her onto the potty, and even when I have got her on she then pees on the floor three seconds later.

So far she sees impervious to bribery. She understands perfectly well that we're offering her a sweet if she pees on the potty but she still won't do it. And until we get her to pee once then she's not going to make the whole praise/reward connection, is she?

Sigh. I know it's only day 1 but we've had plenty of accidents. We've got another three days until she's in childcare again but I don't have high hopes.

It doesn't help that everyone else is already out of nappies during the day

Hello, just joining in. Need
End of day 2 with DD (age 3.3)
She will wee on the potty but just can't or won't decide for herself she needs a wee, so only goes if I manage to catch her at the right moment with regular offering of potty.
The constant vigilance is boring us both! Lots of wees in potty today, but lots of wet pants too. Ho hum.