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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Regression with 3yo, could it be anything medical?

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Honeymoonmummy · 27/09/2014 18:26

Hi all,

I've done a search on this but couldn't find the answer.

DS is 3.6 and has been toilet trained in the day since he was approx 3, with a few accidents now and agajn but nothing too much. He is still in nappies at night and during (now rare) daytime sleeps. Approx 3 weeks ago he had the MMR booster, he was really upset/ crying, had one in each arm so had to hold him down for the second. Later that day he had a wee accident for first time in ages and since then he's had a wee accident at least once a day. We haven't told him off at all but he seems a little bit ashamed when he does it. He says he just likes to play and play (ie he's distracted). He does say he wants to wee sometimes, however other times he can swear blind he doesn't want to go yet the second he's on the toilet he has a massive wee. Is it possible he can't feel it coming for some medical reason and is it worth me going to the doctor or will he laugh me out of the surgery??

Is this just a normal regression that he will grow out of or could it be something medical?

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Honeymoonmummy · 27/09/2014 22:11

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odyssey2001 · 28/09/2014 07:58

We are going through this at the moment. We have reintroduced a reward chart to see if we can kickstart it again. Like you, dry at 3 and now regressing six months on.

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Honeymoonmummy · 28/09/2014 18:49

Have tried reward system today - a sticker each time he goes to the toilet and a treat when he gets 10. He has 6 stickers and damp pants

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odyssey2001 · 29/09/2014 00:22

We reward for dry pants not going to the toilet. Might that work instead?

TerrariaMum · 29/09/2014 09:47

Bumping as I am struggling with DD1 on this very issue. She was fully potty trained and doing really well at using the toilet. But she has regressed and doesn't really use the potty either.

She has started nursery recently with toilets her size and she has accidents what feels like all the time. I'm really embarrassed and have spoken to her teachers but they juwst say she will get there in the end.

I'm not handling it well and I feel terrible about it. I try to remind her to go before we leave for nursery, after we come home and in general and I find it really difficult when I have just seen her sit on the potty and done nothing and then three seconds later wee on the floor.

so I wonder about taking her to the gp too.

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Honeymoonmummy · 29/09/2014 20:57

Good to know I'm not alone Terraria! He's had two wet accident and a poo accident today He's only ever had 2 poo accidents and they've both been in the last fortnight, the first was because he had diarrhoea.

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TerrariaMum · 30/09/2014 08:30

What you describe sounds very like my DD. If I find any solutions, will let you know.

tellmesomething · 30/09/2014 08:39

Oh god my son is doing this too I handled it really badly yesterday after the 4th poo 'accident'

I kept shouting"tell me why" he looked terrified

TerrariaMum · 30/09/2014 10:58

Oh, tellme, I understand. My phrase is 'I don't understand!'

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Honeymoonmummy · 01/10/2014 20:32

I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing ie not giving him a hard time for accidents and hoping "this too shall pass". 4 accidents today

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SpaghettiMeatballs · 07/10/2014 17:24

I'll join you. DD (2.11) has been trained since she was 2.8 and has started having frequent accidents after doing so well.

Today she wet herself at nursery. Her key worker asked her if she needed to go and she said no as she was wetting herself. Then she wet herself in the car park and then again on the way to the toilet at home.

I am weaning 7 month old DS too and I just want to put her in nappies to have a break from all the mess. Nursery say no and to keep going with it now.

I literally don't know what to do next. I've tried rewards and as much as she loves the praise and rewards when she dry she doesn't care about losing them.

I try so hard not to react but today I sat and burst into tears as the washing machine was going with the first two lots of wet clothes, DS and the kitchen were covered in egg and she wet herself for the third time.

I wonder if the fact so many of us are experiencing the same thing means it isn't likely to be physical?

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Honeymoonmummy · 10/10/2014 04:17

It's still happening, he came home from nursery with two bags of wet clothes today. I'm going to give HV a ring, they're still good for this sort of thing until school age, right?

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SpaghettiMeatballs · 10/10/2014 07:23

We've had some progress here. After all the 'don't react' it turned out a reaction did something here. DD was quite shocked to see me cry and I howled at her that I didn't know what to do about her wet knickers

We had a chat about it when I was calmer and agreed to go back to a tick chart which I didn't expect to work but we've had two completely dry days. Wednesday at home and Thursday at nursery where she took the chart with her.

See how long it lasts I suppose but at least this proves it is nothing physical.

SpaghettiMeatballs · 10/10/2014 07:26

honeymoon the only thing I've done differently the last two days is to give a tick on the chart for 'dry knickers' rather than doing a wee or poo on the toilet as I think that has allowed her to get away with dribbling in her knickers on the way to the toilet in the past.

Not that I'm claiming success. It's only been two days after all....!

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