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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Want to cry :( Huge regression with no apparent reason

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Purplelooby · 08/09/2014 13:25

We started pt my son about 6 weeks ago and if I'm being honest it was a breeze. I hadn't intended to start yet but he made it clear he was ready. In the first 5 days we had one accident only and he became dry at night almost immediately. After that he became more 'normal' and had accidents maybe every day or two. We used sticker charts and after a month he was back to the stage where I wasn't even thinking about his toileting. Then of late he started to dribble a bit before weeing. Then it became that he needed prompting and in the last couple of days he's really been reluctant to go (he gets angry with me when I suggest it, even if I can tell he needs it). Then today his childminder called and told me that he had had three accidents already with one on target and only because she sat him on. He doesn't really seem to care, certainly never gets upset by accidents. What do I do? Loads of people were sceptical when I started (he's 24 months now) but he got it no problem. He's still dry at night and he must know what he's doing since he was dry in the day for so long right? He's really very willful and is the most oppositional toddler I've heard of (except for me as a toddler, apparently...). I've stayed very positive and happy with him to avoid 'battles' (he would win) but now I don't know what to do. Except cry, which I am because he's not here to see.

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Purplelooby · 08/09/2014 19:20

Er help?

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TarkaTheOtter · 08/09/2014 19:28

I'm no expert on pt (have currently given up with my "oppositional" toddler).
But if I were you I would back right off but very quietly offer an amazing incentive. Act like you don't care either way but if he stays mostly dry he gets

TarkaTheOtter · 08/09/2014 19:29

I expect at 24 months you might have to go for a reasonably immediate reward as he won't have enough of a concept of time to be motivated otherwise.

HollyBen · 08/09/2014 19:34

I feel your pain! DD was trained at 2.5 and once she got into the swing all was good. She is now 3.6 and we have had a couple of periods regression. The first we got though (eventually) with stickers and rewards. The most recent (possibly prompted by move to preschool) we give her a penny to put in a bank. Once she gets them all (we started at 10, now it's 20) she gets a reward. The first few were kinder eggs. Today she asked for a princess toy (we bought a selection to top her birthday cake and still have dome left). We need to work out how we move away from this, but haven't had so much as a dribble in her pants since then.

purplemurple1 · 08/09/2014 20:33

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to go?

Maybe he is too busy with his game to stop or is he wanting to use the real toilet?

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Purplelooby · 09/09/2014 11:52

Thanks everyone. Last night he told me he's a little boy and wants a nappy. I feel terrible but I really didn't pressurise him to start - it was very much him. I would put him in nappies if I thought it was the right thing but my gut feeling is that I'm missing something. I chatted to him about who wears nappies and who wears big boy pants and he seemed to change his mind a bit. This morning I read him Pirate Pete's potty book and he very much wanted big boy pants and has used the potty for all wees unprompted. He is weeing A LOT though. Like more than once an hour, even once half an hour sometimes. It's not like him. Partly I think he's been constipated and a new baby has started at the childminder, plus he's only just gone back after summer and also DHL started a new job, so all routines are changing. I can understand this could cause a regression but would his sphincter muscle stop working? ?

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minkah · 09/09/2014 11:57

First of all it seemed like an achievement, to him.

Then it seemed like a loss,to him.

Kind of like buyers remorse, without the buying!

That's all.

Tarka's idea sounds good.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 09/09/2014 11:58

Erm, he couldn't have a uti could he?

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Purplelooby · 09/09/2014 22:15

Lol mink yup. Although I do feel like there's something more at work. Then again to a toddler stuff like this us huge. Andifeedemgunpowder that was my first worry and the first thing my childminder thought, but she dismissed it because his wee is so clear....

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Jmum1805 · 09/09/2014 22:17

This sounds like I could have written it two weeks ago. My son was 2 in may and started using potty in April. It's happened with him twice now. And tbh I don't have a quick fix for you, however I can tell you that with my son it stopped as quickly as it started. The 1 st time it happened I was at my wits end, then I started getting him to pee standing up, over night the accidents stopped. More recently when it happened I still can't tell you why it stopped again but we just tried to stay calm and not make a fuss. However I didn't know at the time but he was coming down with bad cold and another pair of molars were coming through, could it be something like that? If I were you, if you can bear it I would plough on. Good luck whatever you decide. Oh and meant to say he does still have the occasional accident if he is constipated. Xx

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