My daughter will be 3 in December and I'm a bit at a loss with potty training. My son got the hang at a similar age and it was fairly straightforwardly about connecting the physical feelings with his brain, but she's a different matter.
She won't, rather than can't, do it. She will go without a nappy at home and hold her wee for ages; she's prepared to sit on the potty but only for a second and she just won't let go of the wee when she does. She will tell us she needs a wee, ask for a nappy to do it in, and tell us she's weeing if she has a nappy on. She knows she gets a smartie if she does a wee on the potty or the toilet and she tells you that with excitement in the abstract but then when she's desperate for a wee she wants a nappy and won't be persuaded to sit on the potty for a smartie.
We have different potties and different trainer seats for the toilet and she seems unimpressed by any of them.
She chose big girl pants and knows she can wear them if she sits on the potty or loo but again , won't actually do it.
What should we do? Any suggestions welcome. I don't want to make a bigger thing of it as it's obviously a mental block and something about weeing outside a nappy she doesn't like but I don't know how to progress. Or leave it? Her friends are starting to notice she isn't wearing pants like them and she tells me sometimes they say she's a baby, all sad 