I know this is common but would like some advice on where to go from here..
DD is 2yrs8 months. Toilet trained fully in daytime for wees, never has an accident in 2 months. Wears a pull up at night. It took a lot of work to get her on the potty (months of failed attempts) but now sorted and incentives / stickers have stopped. Takes herself to the toilet at home and nursery.
Pooing however is not so easy. She's probably done approx 8 poos on the toilet and te same amount on a potty in the last month - 6 wks. It's been up and down and often she will hold it in and then end up getting very very upset and anxious before she needs to go. We just want her to poo and not have a complex so have allowed her to put a pull up on if she requests but that no longer works. She will
Fight it and fight it and literally scream and shout if we suggest she needs a poo. It's soooo traumatic for her. The nursery teacher told me they were concerned the other day! They asked if anything had changed, it hasn't but she is going less often (every 2-3 days now) so I think it hurts / is very big and is scaring her. We give her dates / fruit and veg lots of water to get things moving but she holds it.
Any tips? My DH I don't think is handling it so well. He does bed time routine normally and that is when she often needs to go. I think he's made it into a big deal and she is now v stressed about it so would like to know how to advise him to deal with it.
I have tried to stay very relaxed, use bribery (chocolate) but nothing else. I don't want her to have a complex and be upset big DH is stressing about it and thinks she is damaging her health!
Any advice?!
So far we have tried incentives of stickers, chocolate (which works the best) and even TV! I've also tried giving the poo a name and that helped a tiny bit but not for long, now she just screams whenever we mention it. Any advice?!