So how do you go from nothing on to pants?

[Sootgremlin]

My ds is 3.4 and has been training (again...) since Tues. It's been 3 awful days in pants but he's had a good day today with no bottoms. He has got to where he can go on the potty for wees and poos when he is wearing nothing round the house, with only one or two wee accidents, usually if I'm busy with his sister. Mostly I still have to prompt him for wees, but he has gone of his own accord as well.

We manage little local outings in pants, but timed between wees.

This is all brilliant. But. As soon as he is in pants/trousers, he has constant accidents. He doesn't seem to recognise the signals. He won't tell me he needs to go, he is most successful when he can take himself off to do it in the bathroom, but he can't manage his clothes by himself yet, so I have no idea how to get to next stage. Also he insists on potty and not toilet with seat which is fine at home.

Entirely unsure how to manage longer outings like this, or when to venture them. There's no rush, but I just don't know what I'm doing really.

Will he just 'get it'? How do you make the transition?

Oh that's interesting (you must be so pleased!), I was wondering if I wasn't there whether he'd just go along with it with someone else, think he might.

He was asking this evening if they have potties at playgroup, so think it's playing on his mind a bit. Might broach it with them.

I was definitely pleased - and somewhat relieved! I think it does help in a way when Mummy isn't there, because they have to communicate to somebody else that they need the toilet/potty. Also, peer pressure may help. Is your DS back in preschool today? Hope it goes OK

How about standing at the toilet? DS wAs terrified of sitting to wee on the loo at first but would happily stand on a little step.

He is also reluctant to stand boysclothes but I've passed the buck to DH to try and encourage him in that department. We did try 'aim at the shreddie' a while back but we just ended up with a pretty grim looking breakfast in a toilet.

He's been dry all day again today but went when prompted. Preschool do have potties so told him he could ask for one if needed and he seemed relieved. I think though maybe I've been overestimating how often he actually needs to go and maybe he's fine if not having accidents so trying to relax about it, we live very close to the school.

Today he was in full clothes and asked to go for both wee and poo and was able to go. The first time he was even wearing his (dry) night nappy and wanted it off, so think he's really turned a corner.

So pleased for him really, he's found it so hard but can only get easier for him now. Phew!

Way to go minisoot

My DS has also just completed a totally dry & clean weekend in normal clothes (ie pants & trousers) & we have been out pretty much all weekend, so he too is doing really well Although only 2 dry night nappies ever, but we are not focussing on that at all, he does ask to go on the toilet as soon as he gets up so that's really positive.

It's great when it clicks, isn't it?

That's brilliant, yes it is great when they get it! It's nice to be able to go out and not have it dominate as well, feels like things are getting back to normal.

I wouldn't worry about the night time side of things, I think that it's something you can't control as it's to do with the release of a certain hormone or something.

The odd thing is ds has been having dry night nappies for a while, whilst being nowhere near ready to be trained in the day. It took us a while to work out he was only weeing in his nappy when he woke up. We're keeping him in them for a while until we can trust him to speak up first thing though