I have a three year old very stubborn very wilful little boy. I have tried potty training and I am not getting anywhere. He knows that a toilet is for weeing on and pooing on and has used one one and off for both at nursery and at home. I can get him to use it now and then but I can not get him to use the toilet or a potty regularly or consistently.
I have tried rewards - sweets, stickers etc. it works for about a day. I have put him in normal pants and he doesn't even tell me that he has wet or pooped himself. I was finding wet patches on the carpet and lots and lots of washing, so I went back to pull ups to save the carpets etc for now. He just isn't bothered. If I do suggest the toilet he has a tantrum, a big one. Yesterday he tantrumed for 2 hours just because I suggested he have a wee on the toilet, I didn't even try and make him it was just because I even suggested it, how dare I!! It wasn't an upset tantrum it was an 'I'm bloody angry you even suggested this to me' sort of tantrum. I couldn't do anything with him. He just wore himself out. I only mentioned it and he went NUTS. It's not that he doesn't understand what to do, he does when HE wants to or not at all.
I never had this with my older boy, he was dry at 2 and it only took 2 weeks. I am lost for suggestions. Even the health visitor doesn't know what to advise apart from she thinks he just isn't ready. I would say that if he wasn't getting it but he does get it, he is just wilful!
Help please. I have only got until September before he starts the pre-school nursery and he needs to be dry! September you may say...he really is that stubborn I wouldn't be surpprised and we got to next christmas and him still in pull ups.