Does anyone else feel speech is causing 'late' potty training

[Flowerpup]

My son is 3.4 yrs and I've tried potty training him 3 times now. Last time it was one week solid bare bottomed indoors and no improvement. I feel he is able to wee in a potty but hasn't the speech needed. ( Please no one say you don't need a lot of speech or use signing ) I feel he needs to say 'Mum I need a wee' if we are out and about or in car but nowhere near capable. HV says his speech improves daily so not worried about that but would love to read a success story of a child of similar age or slightly older that just got it, then learnt to ask or did it click one day, anything..?? I feel such a crap mum as he looks older for his age and he's got his big nappy on! Why is he on the late side? I just don't get it! Don't get me started on all the negative comments from people...

My son was very late to potty train (over four by the time he was fully reliable) and also had a speech impediment. I don't know if they were related.

On the potty training we tried everything. In the end, when he was ready he was ready it just sorted itself out. And I remembered the wisdom of a friends mother who said "Did you ever see a 15 year old breastfeeding / sleeping in his mum's bed/ wearing a nappy". Ie, if there's no medical problem, they all get there in the end.

And in my case, he did. He was generally a bit behind in reception - poor thing was youngest in the class. But he's now in year one and has somehow shot up to the top groups. It all just came together when he was ready. The speech is still a bit unclear, but not really a problem.

Oh, and this was my second boy. First boy potty trained at 2.3 over one weekend, with the help of a pack of chocolate buttons. So I didn't feel too bothered by mothers of easier kids telling me I was somehow doing it wrong.