Started DS aged 3 on full days with no nappies 2 weeks ago. Mostly we caught him just as he was starting to wee or poo and helped him pull down underpants and sit on potty. Read stories etc for as long as he was happy to sit there. Did a few poos in potty and lots of wees.
Prior to this, we had been paving the way with introducing potty before the bath and also first thing in the morning after removing night time nappy. So we knew he was happy to wee in the potty.
Towards the end of week 1 he decided he would like to go to the big toilet. He has a friend who uses it so he wants to be like her, he says. We put on a pottette and he does wee but no poo, I think he needs a bigger step so legs not dangling.
He says he doesn't want to use the potty anymore. Point blank refuses to sit on them.
At nursery he tried the toilet and I think they said he did a wee in it. Also soiled himself at the end of day 1 there, and held it in on day 2 and then did a poo in his sleep that night. Didn't even wake up when we changed his nappy.
Told me that he didn't drink anything all day at nursery ... And I think he has some awareness of drinks helping you go to the loo as we have talked about this a bit (oh dear).
1st solo day with me after nursery he was hopping about holding it in because didn't want to go to potty. But when I asked him if he wanted to go upstairs to loo he said no. When I told him I was going to the loo and did he want to come and sit with me, again he refused. Then while I was on the loo he did a poo in his pants the first time, and the second time I was on the loo later he weed in his pants. Just because he was on his own I think.
He can't or won't pull down his trousers or pants to sit on potty.
He says he doesn't know when poo or wee is coming, he says it just comes.
Yet he does tend to stand very still when he does a poo. So I know when it's happening or very nearly about to happen. So I think he must have some idea, of poo at least.
I was worried about him holding it all in too much in an attempt to be dry. So today I just put him in a regular nappy. He seemed happy at first and did a few poos, and then he also seemed a bit sad at times as the morning wore on, and he did a few baby things like asking for baby food at lunch time etc.
after lunch I asked if he wanted to use the toilet as we were upstairs and he said yes. So I took off the nappy and he had a wee! Then he had a fart and a little bit of poo came out, and I think the echo noise of the wind in the loo made him jump, he practically jumped off the seat. Had a good look in to see where it was.
I asked if he wanted to wear a nappy or pull ups. He said pull ups with some excitement. So we wore them but he did a poo in them and didn't tell me, whereas he told me with the pants, and even with the nappy in the old days! We were at a friends house and that probably affected things. Although just before we went home he did try out her loo.
I feel at a bit of a loss. Where to proceed from here? I have a hunch he isn't completely ready but perhaps as we have got this far should we persevere? Or just leave it a month or so? Am terrified of damaging him through allowing him to develop bad retention habits. Also don't want to hold him back. But have this hunch that he isn't ready.
Does anyone else do any of the following:
Stop for a day off and then go back to it the next day?
Do nappy free half days?
Sorry for long post, hope to hear I am not alone!