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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Day 4 of PT - No improvement - Give up?

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CJones1982 · 30/12/2013 12:59

So I set aside the whole week to stay in an attempt potty training bare bottomed again for my 3.3 yr DS - He will now sit on the potty which is one step closer but for 4 days nothing in it! It's like he is getting no warning when he goes and I'm not noticing any indicators that he needs a wee. He just looks down and is going. I've explained and been patient that next time you need to go, you sit on the potty etc. He seems to distracted by what he's doing too and also hasn't the speech to sat 'need wee' - Shall I give up & try again in a month? I feel so embarrassed that he's not potty trained as my other post on this topic explains my families view on it etc - Why can't he get it? Any advice please...

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GoodKingWencesLACK · 30/12/2013 13:02

I think that prehaps Christmas isn't the best time as there is so much stuff going on? The excitement of new toys and visits/visitors. I'd give it a few more weeks and try again, but in the meantime keep the potty to hand, and maybe do a reward chart with Wee in potty, poo in potty, asked for a wee, asked for a poo etc...and keep asking him if he needs.

RubyrooUK · 30/12/2013 13:44

Hello. Feel free to ignore my advice as all children different.....

My DS is 3.4 and trained about six months ago. He is completely dry at night and has only had about three accidents (all at nursery, none at home) since training.

BUT....it took three weeks from first attempts with potty to using a potty with no issues. He did not get it in a couple of days. I don't actually know any of his friends (boy or girl) who only took a couple of days, although I have read that some do. And then it took a couple of months of carting round the potty everywhere before he felt confident enough to use the toilet.

I'd describe the process like this:

Week one:
Cold turkey, no nappies at day time
DS shows no sign of "getting it"
We offer the potty every 30 mins or so
DS endlessly wees in pants and poos only in the morning in his nappy
No bribes seem to work
(I feel depressed about potty training)

Week two:
DS very occasionally gets his wees in the potty
DS never asks to use the potty
We eventually find a bribe that works after much experimentation (incredibly sour sugary sweets Blush that he would never be allowed normally)
DS starts to show mild interest in using potty if he gets a sweet and masses of praise
(I feel depressed about potty training but can see slight progress)

Week three:

DS now very enthusiastic about getting a sweet for performing and praise
Does wees and poos on potty
Starts by end of week to ask for potty so he can have a sweet
Is now dry most of the time

After that, we carried on the sweets for a couple of weeks with enormous praise. We carried round the potty for a couple of months as he was scared of the big toilet. Then he got over that and was happy to use the toilet every time. He asked to take off his nappy at night after a couple of months and has stayed dry.

At the time, it seemed never-ending but I now see that a few weeks cracked it totally. I gave myself two weeks and said I would give up if there was no progress. There was, so it was worth perservering. I'd give it two weeks personally if you can do it. You are changing a lifetime's habit for him so it can take a bit of time.

CJones1982 · 30/12/2013 14:06

Thanks for your replies. I didn't want to start around this time due to Christmas etc but I have 10 days holiday from work so thought it was worth a go. You are both right and I need to continue it, the weather is awful anyway so I might as well. It's really nice to read a story like this and after a few weeks there was great improvement. It really is changing a habit they've lived with for 3 years so I will keep going.
OMG He's just done a poo in his potty, gobsmacked and stupidly want to cry! I'm definitely too impatient and expect miracles

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pileoflaundry · 30/12/2013 14:56

That's great poo news Smile

Would your DS be able to sign to show that he needs to go? If you use a sign consistently he might copy you (I've found it hard to do every time but it seems to work). Like early speech the sign the child does may have very little resemblance to yours, but of course it won't matter as long as you both know what he means. Here's the
makaton sign for toilet but you can always make up your own.

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