CANT GET THE HANG OF THIS POTTY TRAINING.

[chotijan21]

I have a little girl who is 2 yrs and 2 months and she starts a government finding place at pre-school in January, want to know how to potty train her and start a process in which she and i are comfortable with. She recognizes that she wees and poos and she knows what a potty and toilet are but i am struggling completely taking her of nappies, as she does not poo regularly it is always random and she has dry nappies for a long period the all of a sudden she will wet herself so i find it hard to time or make a routine for her!!

I would like to know how to take her off nappies as i have tried pull ups, she just thinks they are nappies and also just taking the nappy of completely. when i take the nappy of completely and put her on the potty regularly she wets herself in between and never actually pees in the potty??

WHAT DO I DO???

Hi OP - pull ups are a waste of time - as you've noticed they just treat them as nappies. My advice, keep her naked from waist down. Put a plastic potty in each room. Stay home for 3 or 4 days. Sit her in the potty initially every ten minutes. Then less often - say 20 mins. When she does go in the potty over do the praise. There will be accidents, but after 3-4 days she should get it. She is a tad on the young side. My boys didn't get it until they were three years old, but goths tend to do better. Good luck.

Goths.

She's a bit young tbh. Does she have to be dry for nursery?

Potty training isn't about a routine, it's about her knowing about her bodily functions, being able to give enough warning that she needs to go, and them being able to hold it in until she's on the potty/toilet.

From what you've said it doesn't sound like she's ready.

And yes, forget pull ups. They're just nappies.

Well, my mother lives abroad in the Caribbean and they potty train when their really young like before they are 2 years old their kids are trained. but I will try every 20 mins!! she does tell me she wants to be changes she just started to recently as the nappy irritates her when she get irritated by a nappy she tells me she wants to be changed even if its dry! so she is starting to understand, and ideally the nursery would like her to be dry so I need to show that I am starting potty training with her as after a month or two they would like to see her out of nappies!

BTW!! thanks for comments!!!

The nursery won't expect her to be dry from such a young age, and if they are satin this I would be questioning them all together to be honest.

I think you just have to bite the bullet and get rid if the nappies when you think they are ready, pull-ups are no real use.

I feel your pain, I am in day three with ds2 who is 2.6 and he is not getting it yet. I'm hoping to have cracked it before ds1 starts back at school after the holidays. Ds1 took 6 days but was slightly older.

I'm from the 'wait till they are ready - life is too short to stress about this' school of thought. Both my children trained a bit later than their peers (but not by a huge amount). It was so easy. I only had to deal with how long they could hold it for rather than them not 'getting' it. Both were accident free in a week.

when were ur children ready?

We used pull ups on nursery's request. It just meant it was easier to pull them up and down when she sat on the potty. She used pull ups for 2 Weeks then pants only. DD was 2.2. It probably took a bit longer than if we'd waited but she is pretty much dry now except still wears nappies at night.

that's what I want but its hard she gets frustrated I am thinking to wait a while longer as she is showing signs of readiness but shes not wanting to sit on potty or toilet. ?

I think you should wait a bit longer, as she is just not ready.
I work in a nursery and we don't expect our children to be potty trained when they start and no decent nursery should expect this.
They should recognise that all children are individual and do not conform to a fixed view of when they should be toilet trained.
She is young still, if you start too young you run the risk of dragging it out and making it all much harder than it should be.
When she is ready you an crack it in a week. If she is not, you can drag it out over months.

It does sound somewhat like she's not ready - but there's no harm giving it a try for a bit - be prepared to leave it for a few months if it doesn't work after trying some of these suggestions.

Moggy's advice is good. Also - get hold of a few potty-training related story books. We had Poo at the Zoo, Everybody Poos, Have you seen my Potty and various others - these books should be read only while sitting on the potty - sooner or later something will come out into the potty whilst she's sitting there, giving you the opportunity to lavish lots and lots of praise, and possibly a sticker reward.

My 2 were ready at 2.5 and 2.10.

I have decided to wait for the right time, people are telling me that whens shes ready she will start asking to use the toilet and being more aware of everything!

thanx!! for all comments :)

I was going to say, it's better to wait, IME. DS1 was 3.10 before he was fully toilet trained, although he'd been doing poo in the loo for some months prior to that, he just couldn't get the hang of realising when he needed to wee. So he was in pull-ups, because that way we could take them down for him to do poo on the toilet. But once he was ready, he was done in a week with only a couple of accidents, mostly due to him playing and "forgetting" - so long as I reminded him to go periodically, he was fine. I kept him in night-time pull-ups for a while longer, but tbh he rarely wet them.

BUT a lot depends, I think, on their ability to dress/undress themselves as well - DS1 wasn't very forward in that respect either, and was easily 3.6, if not older, before he had the hang of pulling his shorts/trousers up and down.