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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Please help with poo holding

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Starbuck84 · 10/12/2013 19:36

My 3 year old daughter has been potty training for about a year. She seemed to get on we'll initially but for some reason at about Easter time she started holding her poos in. She gives various reasons for this ranging from she does not like the colour of poo, she does not like the smell and hates pushing. The HV was not very informative and the doctor put her on laxatives but as she is not constipated the laxatives seemed to make it worst. When she is holding a poo in she also tends to have accidents which is frustrating for everyone. I know reading online that other people have had this problem but there does not seem to be any answers. Her diet is good and I've tried all the tips such as bubbles and even brought books on everyone poos. After 9 months it has become a daily battle which is upsetting the whole family. Has anyone out there got through this problem? Is there anything else I can do?

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newmumof2at42 · 13/12/2013 09:33

In the same boat!! My ds has been at this for 18 months and still no change. Have read and read about it and is common enough. My sister had the same problem with dd and said nothing, just cleaned her up, not complaining and telling her, maybe next time the poo will go to toilet. 9 months of this!! It worked, now no problems at all. I am now trying this with ds and hoping. It has made a bit of difference, will poo a wee bit and it doesn't hit pants but then sits on toilet and shakes it off - sorry to be so explicit - so hoping. This is better than soiling all pants up to 6 times a day. Went to hv and doc - same thing - bubbles etc, nothing worked. He is now 4.7 and in school. Good luck - watching this post in case any1 has a miracle answer.

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Starbuck84 · 13/12/2013 17:30

Really sorry your going through it too. At least your sister managed to survive it do there's hope yet! It is so frustrating and my daughter starts school next September so Iam really hoping its sorted by then. Perhaps as you say if you keep calm and ignore it eventually it will sort itself out but if is frustrating when she is stood clenching a table trying to keep it in then telling you she doesn't need a poo once you put her on the toilet. She gets very upset when you put her on the toilet which does not seem to help. It's at the point where she gets so upset I wish I could for her. Good luck though and it sounds like your moving in the right direction.

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Pancakeflipper · 13/12/2013 17:35

My DS2 would wee in the loo but not poo. I would put him in a pull up for a poo. Petrified of the loo. Then the HV suggested we put a nappy on the loo (trapped under the seat) and DS2 would poo in that, then one day I 'ran out of nappies' so could he try a poo straight in the loo? And then was totally fine.

mydoorisalwaysopen · 13/12/2013 17:44

My DS did this for over a year. It seemed the more I made of it the worst it got. In the end just cleared up and gave laxatives. It took a really long time and at times he was getting through ten + pairs of pants a day and there was a constant whiff of poo. I found it very distressing but unfortunately can't really offer advice rather than give it time.

2beornot · 13/12/2013 17:49

I don't know if this will help, but my friends dd would only poo in a pull-up. Will your dd do that? If they were out she'd tell her mum and they would go off to a cubicle to put the pull up on. Not ideal but better than holding it. One day not long after she was 4 she decided on her own that she was going to use the loo from now on.

With my dd she didn't like pushing or waiting so I used to sit her on it, and we'd chat or play games (like taking turns to name characters from peppa pig). That took her mind of the waiting and she'd go.

LouiseSmith · 01/01/2014 11:59

My 4 year old DS is doing this too. So much so, that every pair of pants I put on him have skid marks on where hes holding on and wont go. The specialist at the hospital proscribed Movicol (laxactive) for him and that doesn't work.

Currently seeking a second opinion, at a lose end with what to do too :(

BonkersinHonkers · 08/01/2014 04:12

Same with DD, 3 tomorrow. Used to hold it in so bad we had to take her for an enema. That sorted the blockage out and now she is on 10mls of lactulose at breakfast and tea time which keeps it all soft so it doesn't hurt. BUT she will only poo in full squat position in a pull up. Tried sitting on loo facing the wall (tip given by friend they can see the poo coming and find it interesting), watching iPad, stickers, but no luck. Have told her that when she's 3 its the rule that all poos are done on the loo and her nursery teacher is in on this too -lets see what happens. Good luck, it gets a bit much when all you think about is S**T

TheBakeryQueen · 10/01/2014 09:17

There is a story called 'poo goes to poo land' which can be found online if you google.

My ds2 had a short phase of not wanting to poo & reading him this story helped.

TheBakeryQueen · 10/01/2014 09:21

www.scribd.com/mobile/doc/28743654

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