Regression- how do we deal with it?!

[AmIGoingMad]

DS now 2.11 has been doing amazingly well and been pretty much toilet trained for 4 months. But in the last couple of weeks we seem to be having at least one 'accident' pee wise a day. It's only ever when we're at home. It's usually in the afternoon. He seems to be doing it in purpose as it only happens at home and often after he's told me he doesn't need to go after I've asked him.
We've tried rewards system again. I'm at my wits end and finding it difficult not to make a big deal of it as he's so switched on, I'm certain he knows exactly what he's doing.

Any advice? Please!

Anyone? Please!

Ignore it. Don't make a fuss.

DD 2.7 has been dry since August and went through this last week. We ignored it and silently mopped up. Soon stopped.

Yep, DD is 2.10 and has been dry since 2.1. She's had a few accidents the last week and we've just mopped up and got on with things. I've usually asked her why she didn't make the loo just in case anything was sore or anything like that.

So try to ignore then. What about when he stands in front of me, outside the bathroom and says 'I'm peeing!'?!

Disaster of a day today

Why after months of dry days is he now just peeing himself even when just metres away from the toilet!!?! It's driving me mad. Do I just give up and put the nappies back on? Only thing is that he's supposed to start school next month but has to be toilet trained to start. Aaargh!

You really must try to ignore it and not make any sort of a fuss, honestly making a big deal of it is massively counter productive. My DD2 trained easily a month or so before turning 2. She was totally fine for about 7 months then regressed (after I had DS). What with small baby etc i was in a really bad way which seemed to make everything a million times worse. After about 2 weeks a friend told me I needed to pull myself together and chill out - she said either ignore accidents ( or at least treat them with an oh dear, never mind, better luck next time let's get you changed attitude) or if you can't do that then stick her back into pull ups for a bit. Not as a punishment - just a respite for you both. That's what I did as accidents (with us it was poo) were too much to bear. DD was v un impressed by pull ups and within 3 days was back on track and I gave myself a massive talking too and calmed down over the accidents along the way.

If he's peeing just metres from the loo then congratulate him - I.e. oh look aren't you brilliant, you so nearly made it to the loo, better luck next time. Believe me I know it's maddening, but anger and pressure will make it worse. We definitely found chocolate buttons for successes did help with the motivation too.

Do not worry about school. Of course they say that children must be trained- they don't want a whole class full of accidents, but in practice they know that there are some children who will be much less reliable and are perfectly set up for dealing with it. You can bet your life he'll be fine at school anyway - they march them all off to the loo at regular intervals and all the children like to copy each other!

Thanks so much nelly!

There's lots of good advice there. I think the situations are very similar as we have dd 5 months too. I just feel that when I've finally gotten dd changed and fed etc so that I can focus on playing with DS, I'm wasting precious time with him having to clean up bloody pee!
Before reading your post yesterday we ended up putting him into a nappy but more as a punishment thing which I wasn't fully comfortable with.

I'm going to try my absolute best today to be unfazed with accidents. It's not going to be easy but I can see its the best way to go.

Thanks again