DS 2.8 fine at home but refusing the potty at nursery

[LittlePoot]

Hello. I'm hoping someone might have some bright ideas to help us persuade my ds to use the potty at nursery! He's only been out of nappies a week but at home is doing brilliantly - no accidents at all after the first day, poos and wees all aimed neatly into the potty. Even knows to wash his hands after. He's at nursery 4 days a week and although the first couple of days were pretty good (one accident and two or three goes on the potty each day), the last two days he has completely refused the potty and instead, holds on as long as he can before the inevitable accident. Today he held on all morning then weed in his nap nappy. Then held on until mid-afternoon and weed on the floor, then held on until home where he happily went on the potty about 3 times in the hour before bath! He's a little bit shy in general, but really happy at nursery and gets on well with the carers. But he's obviously not happy at all using the potty with them and I'm not sure what best to do to help. Anyone been through this and found a useful way out? I have tried asking him why he doesn't like it, but he's not really at the stage where he gives a particularly useful answer to that kind of question....

Hello, I see you posted a couple of weeks ago, maybe things have resolved themselves now. If so I would be keen on tips!
I'm in a similar situation with my son, same age roughly. He's at kindergarten though not nursery, and is there three mornings a week.

My son can be persuaded to go to the toilet at home before kindy which is a short drive away. His first week at kindy in pants, he would not go to the toilet there but waited til we got home. No accidents though but I was concerned about him 'hanging on'.

Second week, he at least went into the toilet but with me, not the staff, but no wees. The staff do ask him reasonably often if he needs to go but he always says no.

Third week, he's done wees but only with me there at pick up time. One staff member today suggested a sticker chart for kindy which will start tomorrow, so we will see how that goes. At home or out we've been.using s sticker chart and chocolate button bribes. I am hoping the stickers at kindy will do the trick.

Good luck (or let me know your tips!).

Hello! Yes - we've moved on a little bit, but it sounds very similar to yours. Funny little things aren't they. Now we've managed to insist on 'pre-car' wees before we go to nursery and he seems to reliably go once to their potty in the morning most days. He naps over lunch and gets a nappy on, which is always soaked after. Then in the afternoon he 'forgets' or refuses to go and often has one accident, then again at home he's weeing and pooing plenty before bath/bed. So basically, still holding as long as he can at nursery, but just a bit less bothered about it. I still think it's partly shyness at not wanting to have to ask to go, and partly just stubbornness. Even at home, he's very reluctant to go before he's desperate, so I'm starting to encourage him to 'try' before we go out and stuff. In the whole 4 weeks so far without nappies, there hasn't been a single time when I've asked if he wants to go and the answer wasn't 'No!'. If I'm sure he must need a wee (i.e. it's pushing 3 hours since the last one.....) then I insist, despite the protests. And I'm usually right. But saying that, he's only had one accident at home since the 2nd day, and maybe 2 or 3 a week at nursery. So I think that's ok! I think it just takes time to get their heads round the idea so I'm trying to panic less and remember that it's all just a phase. Good luck!