Help please! Am out of my depth!

[sparkle101]

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone can help or give me advice please.

Dd is 3.1 and I also have 10wk ds. Dd has been using (and asking) for potty for wees for about three months. When either at home or gps she stayed dry through the day but nursery she will not ask to go to wee And will do it in her nappy. She has only done one poo in her potty and we think that was an accident but we went over the top on the praise.

Ever since ds has been her toilet training has been very hit and miss. She will quite often now do at least one/two in her nappy, will not ask for the potty, always wakes up with a heavy wee and pop filled nappy. I knew about training regression but feel we are going no where.

How do I get it back on track. How do I get her to do a poo in the potty? Should I just move to a trainer seat? Should I be using pull ups? Sorry for the many questions but this is playing very heavily on my mind and not making me feel like a very successful mum.

We have explained about big girls and using toilets, pooing on the potty etc but we are getting nowhere.

I feel like such a failure.

Please help.

Hopeful bump. Could really appreciate any advice anyone could give me please.

Bump? Please.....

Hi,
I'm really in no position to give advice, I posted a thread on here yesterday that I was giving up after day 1!

Anyhow, have been lurking and just read your post. So, if she was my Dd i'd be wondering if the problem at nursery that she doesn't know the procedure i.e. who to ask and what to say - is there one particular teacher/assistant that she trusts, could you have a chat with that person along with your daughter that whenever she needs a wee she asks them specifically and they'll help her - and that perhaps there's a toilet to use rather than a potty?.
I'd definitely move to pull up's, it can't do any harm and might make her feel a bit more in control.
When she does use the potty perhaps give her rewards - how about a reward chart and for completing it she gets baby-free time with you (sorry if this is a ridiculous suggestion in your circumstances but perhaps her greatest reward would be a little trip out with you while Dh has the baby). Just a thought and I may be wrong but perhaps it's not a great time for telling her she's grown-up, she might feel she doesn't want to be 'grown up' with a new baby in the house.
Best of luck

Thank you for replying.

This is the one thing I can't get my head round with parenting and feel like a huge failure! Lots of what you say is true and I'll definitely be trying some of it out. Am also going to speak to my health visitor to see if she has any info or advice.

I guess I didn't realise how much having a new baby affected her, she's such an easy going child normally! She gets lots of time away from him but she is definitely attention seeking so maybe needs more.

Good luck with your potty training, read your thread and agree to maybe wait a few weeks and try again. To start with my dd we were in the bathroom for about 45 minutes reading everything before shedid her first wee and it all snowballed from there. You'll get there. Good luck.

Why is she in a nappy? If she's dry a lot of the time put her in pants.

I thought she had to be totally dry for pants? Like she was before but I missed the bandwagon on that one. Would you think pants when she's still doing some in her happy? Willing to give anything a try.