Three year old - just not bothered

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DS2 has just turned 3 and couldn't be less interested in potty training. His little mates at nursery are in pants but he's told me he doesn't want big boy spiderman pants (I know, he's obviously missing the point) and would rather wear a nappy. He quite happily stands next to me and wets or soils his nappy without pausing.

He's sat on the potty. He's sat on the potty at nursery. He just sees nappies as an advantage.

So shall I just wait - which is fine, or shall we go cold turkey during the day (nursery are going to have to buy into this as most of it will be on their watch), try it for a week and see if he wants to do it (going back to nappies if at the end of the week we're getting nowhere/we've run out of clothes).
I don't feel pressured. But I'm wondering if he needs a gentle push (DS1 wanted the pants!) to get him started ?

If your gonna try I would try on the weekend so he's had a few days at home first and nursery can back you up and continue to progress him.

I would try for a week and then judge it on how he has responded.

I don't know but we have pretty much the same issue...

Leave him be, he'll let you know when he's ready...

You could try going cold turkey...I am finally making some headway with DS who's three next month. He has just started weeing in the potty if he has nothing on his bottom half, but if he has a nappy on he will wee in the nappy. I put him in pants today and he said he didn't want to wear them and wanted a nappy, but once he had them on he was fine - at least in the sense that he only weed in them once, but otherwise let me sit him on the potty every hour or so. I think in my son's case it's because he doesn't like change much. I would say give the pants a try at home and he may adjust.

Dd1 was like this just not interested . Exh forced the issue and we made very slow progress with lots of accidents. It was painful and stressful. Given the choice I would have waited another 3 months and tried again. She was 3 in the October and finally accident free the following April.

Don't inadvertently pressure him by talking about big boy pants. Being a big boy might not appeal to a 3 year if theyre expected to do big boy things

Make it matter of fact. He has pants and that's it. Ok, he might need a nappy but don't make a big deal about it. If he has an accident, don't make a big deal about it.

Treat it as a normal thing, which it is.

When you say he's sat on the potty so you mean he's pooed and weed on it? If not I would aim for that before nappies come off.

My two weren't out of nappies in the day until three and a half (and weren't dry at night until five and a half or thereabouts). But when it happened it was remarkably quick and didn't really need 'training'. We progressed straight to a seat with steps that we put on the loo (we had a potty but it was practically never used) and the number of accidents they had could be counted on one hand. I figure it was simply the right time for them. I did give them each a gentle push, as they were reasonably comfy with the way things were, but it was a really gentle one. If I'd met with a lot of resistance I would have given it up (but only for a couple of months at that age - I did want them out of nappies by 4!)