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Potty training going well at home but badly at nursery

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Deliaskis · 09/09/2013 18:46

Anyone had a similar experience?

Started training DD (2.6) 3 weeks ago and after a lot of accidents in the first couple of days, she seemed to then make great progress, and is almost dry on the days she is with me, DH, Grandma or Nanna. Less than one accident a day, more like 2-3 a week. She sometimes asks to go (about half the time), and otherwise I put her on the potty and she performs. She can hold it, as she has done with me on various occasions, so is physically capable IYSWIM.

3 days a week though she is in nursery and she has done nothing in the potty today, all in her pants. Before this, she had done less well at nursery than at home, but then from Thurs-Fri last week and today it has gone from bad to worse.

What has other people's experience of training with nursery as part of the childcare routine? I know they can't be as focussed on it as when she's at home or with GPs, but I am disappointed to be honest. I feel like as she's not asking, they're just forgetting about it a bit and then oooops, another accident...but it's disheartening when she's generally really good at home. I also don't get the right info on the daily report about what she has done, I seem to get a different story from the horses mouth than I do when I unpack the washing bag.

Maybe I'm expecting too much, but others have said 'oh nursery will be great at it' but to be honest I'm disappointed and don't feel like we're getting the support with this that I expected.

Nursery is in every other way fantastic so I'm a bit unsure as to how to proceed.

Dx

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kd73 · 09/09/2013 19:02

Sorry but I think you are asking too much from her and your nursery. By your own admission she has an accident every day or so and seems to need help in reaching the potty to avoid an accident. Your nursery will be unable to offer the one to one support provided at home or by grandparents and she will pick up on your disappointment. I am potty training at the moment but ds is 2 yrs 10 m and he started using the potty in May but we held back the potty training until now. Hope this post helps x

Rhubarbgarden · 10/09/2013 13:23

Have you chatted it through with her key worker to see what they advise? They are the ones having to clear up the mess so they should be motivated to help. It could be that they take a 'relaxed' approach unless asked otherwise by the parents.

Dd had a little setback when preschool started up again yesterday, and her key worker admitted she'd been too busy to focus on it, but this morning was better.

I think you just have to keep up the conversation with the nursery.

Deliaskis · 12/09/2013 16:52

Hi,

Thanks for replies. I did try and respond a couple of days ago but MN was not playing nicely with my laptop for some reason.

Maybe I am expecting too much, I just feel like it's a pretty key part of development at this stage and I thought they'd be better at it.

One of the additional complications is that her keyworke left at the end of August (bawl), and the new one has gone on holiday for two weeks, so the handover has not been smooth at all. There are also two new people (as in trainees) in her room, and another girl is still quite new, so there are only two staff who have been consistent and they just have not been able to focus on this at all.

It has tied in with DD becoming quite clingy and unhappy at drop-off time, so I think it's just a tricky time for nursery. She is still doing well at home, and although she has to be asked/taken a lot of the time, she has had no accidents at home since last Friday.

Not sure what to do, don't know whether to abandon and try again when she's a bit older and I can present it to nursery as more of a fait accompli rather than something I need their support with.

D

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Rhubarbgarden · 12/09/2013 22:55

If she's doing well at home I wouldn't give up. Push on, and the nursery will just have to play ball. They are not stepping up to the plate. Hopefully that will only improve as the new staff settle in.

Deliaskis · 13/09/2013 09:33

Yesterday better, 50/50 success, and one of the accidents she was running there but didn't make it. So we're sticking at it for another week and see how she goes. Much more support from them yesterday and today though so fingers crossed.

Thanks again for replies.

Dx

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