DS1 is 2.7. Since he turned 1 or thereabouts both sets of GPs, especially MIL have been nagging about potty training 
. Bought potty about a year ago and a couple of kid's PT books and just encouraged him to sit on it for fun, ignoring the nagging. About 9 months ago we had a few well-timed successes with wees and poos in the potty, cue MIL jumping up and down about we had to keep going with it now, had to be consistent blah, blah, blah. Alas I had DS2 at around the same time, DH was on crutches for 6 months so I had 2 under 2, plus DH to look after, with PND, repeated bouts of mastitis, and a house move to deal with. So the potty was hardly top of my list of priorities.
In the midst of all this DS1 lost interest in the potty/toilet, refused to sit on either so I just left it but in recent weeks he got interested again.
Last Friday I capitulated to the pressure and put DS1 in pants, inspired by my friend whose DD (same age as DS1) was on day 6 of PT and going well. He definitely understands that he shouldn't wee or poo in pants but should use toilet or potty. So all wees have been in pants and he tells you as soon as it's happened, but all but one accident has been in the house so I am assuming when he's out he can hold it in. Yesterday and today he has been holding it in at home as well but eventually leaking onto pants/floor and now refuses to sit on toilet or potty at all. Poos much the same. We had one on the toilet on day 2 which he said he needed, but probably just well-timed. Rest have been in pants or at nap-time/bedtime when he has a nappy on. He definitely knows what he should be doing, but seems to have become very anxious about using the toilet/potty and not having his nappy on. We just put a pull-up on after lunch and he did a massive wee and poo so was obviously holding it in.
I was hoping to persevere for a week, then shelve it for a month or so if no progress but wondering if I may as well give up now.
I hate this pressure from the GPs, seems like they think I'm a shit, stupid, lazy parent. I know they had to wash all their nappies but how did they get kids trained younger? I use cloth part-time so I know about washing nappies. I'm as keen to have DS1 trained as they are, I hate having two in nappies, I hate the expense, the washing, trying to get DS1 to stay still to change him, but I also know that most people say they won't train till they're ready. I really don't feel confident with what I'm doing which is why I feel so defensive about it. Grrrr...sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant there.
Off to parenting now for a moan about his fussy eating 