I have trawled through the posts on here and the general consensus seems to be to ignore so that's what I'm going to try to do but insert expletives liberally. Basically I just need to vent 
as people in real life are getting a bit judgey and I MUST be doing something wrong but haven't got a clue what to do now.
My dd is almost 3.5 years old. She is completely capable of going for weeks without an accident but the past couple of days she just will not go to the toilet. She does this every once in a while after a really long spell of being totally wet and dry. It's like she suddenly remembers that she has been going to the toilet and then just.... stops. The result is wee everywhere!
But today she has outdone herself. She clearly needed to pee. Spent about an hour getting more and more frantic with running in circles around the garden, cross-legged jigging, writhing, etc. Asked her what was wrong and she just said 'nothing' 
. So rather than just GO TO THE BLIMMIN' TOILET she laid down on the hall floor and had an almighty wee. And boy did she look smug afterwards. So I ignored her and she wandered upstairs to change. So I left her for a bit to battle with her wet jeans and then silently helped her. The whole time she had this very pleased with herself/smug, jaw jutting look on her face 
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Anyone have any advice besides ignore? Or would that be the best course of action now... I've ranted, I've marched her to the toilet every hour, I've done the stickers/bribery, reminded/asked regularly... I'm at my wits end here.
Thanks.