What am I doing wrong?

[breadandhoney]

Started toilet training dd last Monday. She is 2.2. Showing all te signs of being ready - telling me when she is doing a wee/poo, weeing on toilet at bathtime etc. so I made a nice sticker chart and started the day with big girl pants talk and explained that she should tell mum's when she needs to do a wee and we will do it on the toilet and get a sticker. She seemed to enjoy the sticker aspect for the first 4 days or so then wasn't bothered. I was takin her very twenty mins or so an if she needed to go she did. However she wouldn't tell me if she did need to go. I accepted it was still early days and as log as I was catching most weeks before she wet herself then I was happy enough. Sometimes I I asked her she would say she did need to go, which is great!

So trouble is that now this week she seems to have lost interest. She is getting frustrated with me taking her to toilet every 30 mons and asking her repeatedly in between f she needs to go. We spent time on Monday crafting a new chart together and I have edifferent stickers for this week but she has no interest in stickers at all now. I don't know how else to motivate her. When she is successful I give a big cheer and smile and hug and tell her how happy she has made mummy. But tbh today every time I put her on the loo she would say she didn't need to go. Several times she had an accident within a couple of minutes of getting off the toilet, so obviously she did need to!

I am getting more and more frustrated and have shed a tear over this a couple of times today. I feel ridiculous crying about it but I don't have any other ideas of how to motivate her. I thought by the second week it would have clicked a bit more but she seems bored of it now.
I'm on phone sorry for typos. Really I suppose I am wondering how long I should expect this process to take and please someone tell me what I am doing wrong.

TIA

Hay Tia,

Please don't get upset...they know they are DOING it well before they can feel they NEED to do it ...the chances are you are getting pot louck when she does use the toilet...I attempted with my son 5 times, pulling my hair out etc ...just the same as you are...it was summer the final time I tried and let him toddle about with no nappy etc in the garden...and he just used to wee all over his feet then look up at the sky wondering where it came from... he was not ready..

Then all of a sudden he came in 2 day... wee mummy.. pulled off his trousers nad nappy and bosh!!! he was ready and knew it...

So reading you post several times now, I am certain she has not yet got that feeling off needed the toilet connected to eachother... I dont think she is ready yet...not untill she can feel when she needs to go... dont push her or she will get fed up and frastrated herself...give it a rest for a while and try in about in a month or so ...They all start and finish at different times :-)

Good luck x

I'm feeling your pain. We are in week 3, week 2 was great but now we seem to have taken a step back and he isn't telling us any more. We are on holiday so busier and he's more tired, plus he has had a Willy infection which I think has hurt him to hold on to it, so I try not to get annoyed but I'm struggling not to give up. Got another on the way in December so want to crack on but need a good day just to help me feel better. Hoping next week when I'm back in my normal routine it will help, but don't feel alone.

Thanks for the replies. Glad to know I'm not alone!

short I think she does know that she is about to wee. There have been a couple of times when she has had that look of concentration on her face and I've asked if she needed a wee and her reply has been "I wait it come out my bottom" I wonder if she knows she needs to go and just doesn't want the hassle of being made to sit on the toilet? What age is your ds now? Was yesterday day one for you in this current round then? How is today going?

PMGKT So glad to hear someone else is going through this. I am reluctant to give up, as I don't want dd to think that going back to nappies will always be an option. I am also due in december with dc2 so wanted dd to be fully toilet trained by then. What age is your ds? Do you wait for him to tell you he needs to go or do you take him to hang out on the toilet every half hour or so? I wish I had done more research before starting, as I am very unsure of the right way to go about this whole thing!

Bread he is 26 months and before we started did say when he was doing a wee and poo and showed all the signs. We get him to sit on the potty before we go out in the car, and at regular intervals when out and his attention maybe elsewhere. At home last week he didn't need asking at all just said wee wee cos he needs some help with his pants still. But this week he is just telling us after the event. I'm going to give it mote time back in the normal routine and then see what happens. I read gina ford and apparently even when properly trained they still have accidents about 4 a week, although I'm not sure that sounds right.

bread - he is nearly 13 now lol .. my biggest problem with him was the other!!..he didnt want to poo on the toilet , the more he hung on to it the more it hurt him and the circle continued :-( untill the MW told me to dose him up with pure Orange juice...he had no choice then!!!

Good luck x

How are you getting on bread?