Help needed....Too clever to potty train?

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I have been trying on and off for over a year. Feel I am failing as DD will be 4 later this year. Am under health visitor but they seem to have a "Don't worry" approach.
DD will sit on potty but won't do anything in potty or toilet. I am trying to go for pants only but DD just found a pull up and put it on.
(Will keep them upstairs from now on!) She had pants on but wet them.
We need to go out (school run) in a bit so I will let her have nappy till after that.

Anyone else with similar problems or advice?

Am trying stickers as a reward.

As far as rewards are concerned I find chocolate buttons to be more effective.

I'm sure the HV would jump up and down in horror but at her age I think it is reasonable. Particularly as it sounds like she has a bit of a mental block about it.

I don't understand what you mean by 'too clever to potty train'?

It sounds like you're maybe being a bit half-hearted about it, and it's sending out confusing messages to your DD.

Once you decide you're going to do it, then you kind of have to give it your all - especially for the first few days - commit to it, and do it properly.

I'm not a Gina Ford type, but I found her potty training book invaluable. I would never have even considered her, except for all the recommendations I read about it on her. She does very much favour a fully-committed, consistent, don't look back approach. But it works, assuming your child is ready to be trained.

Don't know if this will give you hope or fill you with horror. DS2 wasn't reliably dry until he was 4.10. Luckily just in time for school. Does your DD know other children of the same age who are dry?

You sound like you're trying not do much to train as just let her get on with it and I'd be surprised if that approach ever wires. You need to decide which day you're going to start and stick to it. No more /pull ups in the day and be prepared for wetting herself for the first few days.

DC 1 trained very early she showed all the signs and I decided to go for it. On day one shed wet 5 pairs of pants in the first three hours but I stuck it out and by day three she was completely dry. It dies mean you're a bit housebound or at least prepared for accidents but Honestly it is the best way otherwise there are too many mixed messages

I don't understand the reference to being too clever?

Agree, i stayed in and around the house for 3 days. All nappies went and I spent most of each day washing wet clothes and bed sheets. It takes dedication but can be done. Treats work well!

I liked bribing dd1 with chocolate. Worked wonders. We bit the bullet with staying dry over night, and just went for it. She's 3 next week.

Just go for it. Pants on, ask her if she needs the toilet. Tell her she'll get chocolate/sweety when does a wee or poo. After 3 days you should have cracked it.

Defo get rid of pull ups.

Agree with the others

You have to go for it

Buy loads of pants, your weapon of choice (haribo/choc buttons) and stickers and go for it

Providing your DD is showing signs of readiness you have to take the lead and do it