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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Desperate for some new ideas

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Sonatensatz · 11/09/2012 10:14

I have been potty training DD2 for over a year now. She is my youngest older DC's all trained really easily DS's both clean and dry with in a week of their second birthdays and DD1 in less than a week at 20months. I have also potty trained lots of other children when I worked in a nursery.

DD2 is dry at night, she poos in the toilet no problem (95% of the time), when we're out and about she is dry for long spells and asks for the toilet. At home she can use the potty independently when she wants to but...

The problem is that at home she often won't go to the toilet, she just wets herself. She knows she needs to go because sometimes I see her dancing trying to hold it. When She gets told off she always wets herself. If she's out in the garden she'll either wet herself or wee in a flower pot, when we tell her off for weeing in the flower pots she says "I'm funny". She isin't bothered about being wet either so I don't often know where she's wee'd to clean it up.

I have tried star charts, rewards, telling her wet pants aren't nice, taking her regularly to the toilet (if she doesn't want to go she'll hold it and won't wee if you sit her on the potty)

I ended up putting a nappy on her this morning because she wet just as we were going out the door to school and we were so nearly late (I think she'd wet 'cause she was cross that I given the boys snacks to put in their bags and wouldn't let her have one).

I really, really need some new ideas because I just can't keep up with the wet clothes and the fact that our house must smell really bad to anyone who comes in.

Sorry so long, thanks to anyone who's read this far

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LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops · 11/09/2012 10:18

How old is she?

Sonatensatz · 11/09/2012 10:28

She's 2yrs 10mths

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LoopyLoopsOlympicHoops · 11/09/2012 11:29

Maybe just leave it a bit? She sounds like she's not ready. Just because her siblings got it early, doesn't mean she will. Maybe chill a bit?

girlywhirly · 11/09/2012 13:54

This is all about controlling you. She knows it gets up your nose that she will not wee in the right place, and also she will wet herself when thwarted (as in the snack incident)

How about tomorrow morning saying that she can have the same snack as the older DC, as long as she does all her wees in the potty/toilet and there are no wet pants. You choose the time, mid morning with her drink or lunchtime, whenever the boys have theirs. It would probably have more incentive power if it is the same thing that they are getting, although you say treats haven't worked before.

I think that ultimately the only thing that will work is if you start not caring about the wetting, and take the power away from her.

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