First day - not going well!

[emoo777]

I believe my daughter is ready - she is 2.5 yrs and has been asking to wee on the potty for a long time and telling me when she wees / poos.

First thing this morning I explained we were potty training and she sat on it a lot and finally weed. I made the mistake of thinking it was going to be easy! She weed on her chair during breakfast (in cotton pants) and got very upset. When we went to the park I put her in a pullup and it was wet when I got back (despite offer of portable potty).
Since then she has weed three times in her cotton pants and is refusing the potty. She is getting upset about needing the loo. I feel bad to see her in distress. She has been asking for a pullup, so I think using one was a mistake.

Advice please? Are pullups a mistake? If she is upset about the whole thing should I give up and try another time? Do most people go out of the house without their children in pullups? Desperate for advice!!

Ditch the pull ups. They will only confuse her. (I believe in going cold turkey with nappies, and using pull ups only at night).

This is how I potty trained, and it worked 3 times:

When the child is ready (and 2.5 sounds good to me) Explain what you are both going to do.

Book a week in your diary not to go anywhere (this can be tricky if you have older children to pick up from school, I appreciate.)

Have a potty near each loo in your house, the garden if it's summer, and downstairs if you have no downstaris loo.

Forget pants this week.

Let your DC see you wee, in the loo, so they know what they should be doing on the potty. DD didn't get I wanted her to poo in the potty as well as wee, because she had never seen anyone poo. Once she knew she wasn't the only person on the planet who pooed she was well away.

If she is upset today, that is good.It shows she has recognised what she has done, and should be able to correct it by weeing in the potty.

Personally I never used sweets as rewards, or reward charts, but did do lots of clapping when things went well. I ignored accidents, or just said "Oh well".

I think ditch the pants and pull ups. It took dd 3 days for us to crack the initial pottys for wees part.
In the end i ditched all plans for going anywhere for a day, let dd run around semi-naked and plied her with fruit-shoots goes straight through most children and sat her on the potty ever 30 minutes. And made a huge fuss if even a dribble went in the potty. We did use a sticker chart big smiley face and stuck stars on it when we had successes
Dd is non verbal SN so didn't really have the option to give her the choice of offering the potty, it was more of a here's the potty sit on it kind of thing.

Well, after a few hours of 'wee wee coming, nappy on' and her freaking out when I brought out her story about potty training I have decided to give her a break from it and come back fresh in a few weeks time.

I wonder, in hindsight, it might have been because the leg of the potette collapsed when she sat on and freaked her out..

She was asking to go on it before so I might have to wait until her enthusiasm returns. Thanks for your advice - I will come back to it after a break.