WWYD?

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DS is 2.8. We've had a couple of failed attempts at pt already. DS is now asking for pants and does not want nappies on but has never made any attempt to get to toilet/potty himself or tell us that he needs to go. So when he has pants on, he just treats them as a nappy. He can control it though and won't have accidents if we take him to the toilet/potty regularly (for wees anyway, poos are a whole other thread). Wwyd, would you carry on mopping up and hope he starts telling us, or put him back in nappies until a later date? He has never cared about having a nappy on/being wet, so I think part of it is that it doesn't actually bother him to have an accident so there's no point in going to the toilet. Very frustrating. There is no time pressure, he starts pre-school in September but they are happy to do whatever we want to do.

As its summer how about letting him run around with nothing on the bottom half while at home then just keep asking him if he needs the potty rather than taking him. Just use nappies when you go out or pull ups and tell him he can't wear big boy pants unless he let's you know when he wants the potty.

He hates being naked, so it's hard to do pants free time (although I have managed to distract him enough this morning). He still just wets though, and nearly always says no if you ask him if he needs to go.

We've had sooo many discussions about telling us when he needs it, he always agrees that he will and then just doesn't.

My son does this too, I've told him he can't have 'big boy pants' until he learns to tell mummy or daddy when he needs the potty

I was ready to ask exactly the same but this morning for the first time ever my son asked! A small glimmer of hope. He is only 20 months so very conscious that he is so young. But now he has asked I feel I can't go back and confuse him.

Sorry that wasn't really answering anything I meant that I'm sure your son will ask and shock you one day and that I felt the same as you. I make sure he has a massive fuss about sitting on the potty and stickers if he is successful hoping he will realise that he doesn't need to wait for me to ask. I also found it helpful to make sure I have the potty right near him (I practically follow him around with it) so he might glance at it and it jogs his mind

I have a dd who is 11 months so that adds a whole other level to the complicatedness.
I hate hate hate this part of parenting, this is the first thing I've really felt challenged and stressed by. Please can someone do it for me?!