I have also posted this in Chat but think it's going to totally disappear and I really need advice!
DD is 2.2, was going to leave potty training until she asked to try (bought her a nice potty and let her play sitting her toys on it etc but no pressure for her to use it).
She goes to nursery three full days a week and they suggested about 3 months ago that they thought she was ready to try. I didn't really agree but trust the nursery and bought pants etc., still didn't push the issue as was pg with now 2m old baby so not only was DD going through a lot but I really couldn't be arsed with it all. Sometimes, at home and at nursery, she asked to sit on potty or to wear knickers/pull ups but we have had no accidents but no wee in potty either.
I spoke to keyworker this week, she said that DD was asking how she could get a sticker on her potty chart like other kids are. I reluctantly agreed for a "big push" (pardon the pun) this week on the condition that if it didn't work there be no mention of it again until initiated by DD. Yesterday she came home very pleased with herself after three wees in the potty. At bedtime she insisted on getting up again to use the potty where she successfully weed.
Today though sad she was saying her bum hurt this morning, she was adamant it was her bum, not her front bum. I put nappy cream on but it wasn't red. She carried on whinging and eventually became absolutely hysterical, couldn't say anything intelligible, was refusing to stand up. I tried hugging, gently shaking, shouting, nothing was getting her to snap out of it, when suddenly she did a massive wee. I reassured her, congratulated her on the amount of wee, took her upstairs and showered her and she was fine, liked the shower and chose to wear knickers, chose which pair.
Off we went to my mum's, she had a lovely day apart from two slight wee related upsets, not as severe as first thing but she did get upset (hand flapping, crying). She did however wee in her knickers once without any problem and in the garden once quite happily.
I'm on here posting as she has just had a meltdown over it. dp was going to bed and she stirred as she often does, he gave her a drink of water but she started to cry. I went in and tried to shush her while he was getting ready for bed but had to lift her out of cot, she was very upset, clingy, sobbing that she needed a wee. Nappy was dry. She got more and more upset, we were telling her it was fine to wee but she was writhing about crying, DP tried taking her nappy off and putting her on potty but she didn't want to. He has taken her out in the car, still screaming, with a still dry nappy.
What can we do to help her? I am so angry with myself, I knew she wasn't ready and should have told nursery to leave it. Now she seems to have some big psychological issue with toileting, ffs I am furious with myself. She is distraught, poor little thing, and we don't know why, we have never told her off for anything to do with the toilet, nursery say they haven't either and I do believe them.
A physical cause seems unlikely, she has been drinking well and has done lots of clear wee today because I've seen it!
Any ideas, please help.
should also say, she is not "fussy" about wet clothes, getting dirty etc., so I don't think it's that.