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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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WON'T POO ON THE LOO!

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LadyPen · 27/07/2012 15:23

My DS is 4 in December and has been out of nappies day and night time for quite a long time now, but he will only poo in a nappy. He starts nursery in Sept and has to be out of nappies completely. We havr tried going on the potty and toddler seat on the toilet but he won't even try. We have tried using a rewards but nothing will get him to poo anywhere but his nappy. He gets really upset and so do we :( So I always manage to find a hidden nappy for him to go, so that he doesn't hold it in and get a tummy ache or is traumatisd by the whole thing, I have heard some horror stories ending in trips to the doctor for constipation, so I always end up using a nappy in the end. Can anyone help I only have a month till nursery!! Thank you

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Dinamit · 29/07/2012 21:14

Ah, I don't have anything wise to say, I'm afraid, apart from that I am in the same boat. My DS, 3.5 is starting school in just over a year. Like yours, he will get up in the night to wee, does that standing up, so it's not a cognitive thing..

I've got a copy of Poo goes to Pooland, if that would help. Maybe it will work for your DS, it hasn't for mine.

Apparently, lots of boys 'suffer' from this.

Best of luck.

Ellie78 · 30/07/2012 12:10

Hello
I wish I too had some advice but am also really struggling with my DS who is 4 in October. We had a couple of moments when I thought we had cracked it - he just went and did a poo on the toilet by himself - but since then no joy. We have tried everything. Just ignoring it, persuasion, presents from the poo fairy...He has now stopped going in his nappy too (he would always do one when he woke up and knew he had a nappy on) We are now into day 4 with no poo and am scared he is going to explode!!
Dinamit could you pm me a copy of Poo goes to Pooland please? Anything is worth a try!

ilovemyoboe · 02/08/2012 21:53

We're at early stages of potty training with DS 3.2. Not had any poos on the toilet yet, but he did think it was very funny when I said that when he did a poo then it would go 'splash' in the water. Big emphasis on the 'splash' to make it fun, and give him something to look forward to as he likes sounds. Also he really wants to use toilet paper to wipe, but told him he has to do a poo to be able to do that.

Has he said anything to indicate why he can't/won't poo on the toilet? Some children get bothered by (a) the idea that if they poo and wee at the same time it will get all mixed up and that's not good somehow, or (b) the feeling of pooing sitting down, as it comes out faster and more easily (sorry if too much detail!) so they don't feel in control. Could try and find out if either of those are an issue, although be careful how you ask so you don't inadvertently give the poor lad something else to worry about.

Does he think poo is disgusting? Some books recommend chatting about how everyone poos - list family members - and how it's normal. Can also point out that animals poo just like people, esp if you're going to the park or something and you see a dog pooing.

Sorry if that's all old hat to you and you've tried it all already. Am reading through another potty training book (that actually seems fairly sensible!) so will post back if it says anything that might be helpful.

Milco · 03/08/2012 22:41

Have you tried putting a nappy in the potty, and then suggesting he poos in this? I know it sounds weird, and I haven't tried it myself, but a friend did and found that it worked with her DD (just under 3 at the time). She only had to do it a few times apparently, and then she just went in the potty without the nappy.

I have to say, we had the same issue with DS when he was being potty trained at around 3. He did start off doing them in the potty but became constipated (possibly because he didn't like doing them) and a nappy was the only way he could do all the jigging around necessary to go (TMI, sorry!). For a while he was in pants but used a nappy when he said he needed a poo. Then he went back into nappies for a month or two around his third birthday because he started preschool and didn't like using their loos much, so tended to hold on to wees too and get very uncomfortable and eventually have an accident. Was too stressful for him and us! Then we finally cracked it all when he was about 3.2. Can't say what sorted out the pooing - I think his just being older and more willing to use the loo regularly. Holding on to poos has reappeared a few times since then, but we have always come out the other side with some bribes gentle persuasion and latchulose to tackle the constipation when needed.

Not sure this helps too much, but you are definitely not alone.

Shelly32 · 06/08/2012 19:05

I'm having similar issues with twin DD (2.5). Her sister poos and wees merrily in the potty and while she'll wee , she will not go to poo of her own accord and holds it in. She cries and gets very upset when she is placed on the potty, although she will go then. Good luck with your son! Fingers crossed it's just a stage!

Knax · 13/08/2012 22:00

I couldn't download "poo goes to pooland" only read it on computer, and others tried it and had same problem. Can u buy it from amazon or similar?

emummy · 14/08/2012 16:43

We've been going through this for a while with ds, nearly 4. For a while it is all fine, then it noseives for some unknown reason. Am going to GP again this week, as ds will often hold onto poo and we have found lactulose to help a bit with this. Today I was on a site called eric.org (or poss .org.uk, can't remember!) which had a lot of good suggestions for toileting problems, including for kids who will only poo in nappies, so you could try that. Good luck!

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LadyPen · 08/09/2012 21:03

Hi ladies, thank you of your posts, sorry I have not been on for a long time, but we have a death on the family and I have been preoccupied. All back to normal now. Since I posted my 'poo problem' my DS has now progressed out of pooing in nappies to doing it on a potty. WE felt that it was maybe too much of a leap from nappy to toiliet so we went for a halfway mark and got his old pottly out. He has since been pooing happily on his potty and says that when he is a big boy he will poo on a toilet. We have spoken with his kindergarten teacher who is happy to have his potty there. Maybe when he sees other children pooing on the loo hemay chose to do the same. But definately taking off the pressure from doing it on the WC has worked. Although it does mean we take a potty out with us when we go out!!! I hope that all this helps a little :)

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